One thing I love to do is make people happy. I know I’m not alone in this, many of us take pleasure in making someone else’s dream, fantasy, or wish come true. In the general sense, it takes place most often around Christmas time – which isn’t a bad thing!
Personally, I do love receiving requests from my “fans” or the members of my website. They request a certain feature or upgrade to the website, or something they’ve wanted to see from me in regards to a certain kind of photo shoot or a unique situation for a video, and I do my best to accommodate. I’ve even had to create a special “kink” section for some of these requests. (For those of you site members screaming for downloadable content [specifically videos], take note! I’m working on my new redesign which will include some downloadable content. The new design won’t be live until the beginning of February, and will have [in addition to the downloadables,] High definition video, new sets, a newly designed bedroom, more kinks, …the list goes on!)
Of the requests I’ve honored, a fan suggested I purchase an anklet to wear on my right ankle, as a symbol of my hotwifing activities. Another request, honored just this week, was for me to wear the new “stripper shoes” I bought and an anklet when meeting up with one of my guys. These requests are easy to pull off, basically because they only involve ME and some item that I could easily purchase. Other requests I haven’t been able to tackle, due to location or situations not being able to pull through. Those times are really frustrating, since I do aim to give the people what they want.
One of the most unique and detailed requests to date involved a guy’s fantasy for sex on the wedding night. Without giving away his entire story, he was divorcing and he and his wife never had “wedding night sex” on that first night. He picked a date to come meet me, bought the wedding attire (not a full on wedding dress, one of those sexy lingerie wedding outfits), shoes, the whole nine yards! He even has specific requests as to what color lipstick and nail polish I wear. While I had never really thought about the appeal of wedding night sex as a fantasy, it was beginning to make itself clear. This was a fantasy that he has thought long and hard about, down to the tiny details. How could I not participate?! Helping make someone’s fantasy situation come true is really hot for me. We haven’t had this fantasy meeting yet, but it’s coming soon. When it does, I’m sure it’s going to be an experience to never forget!
I openly encourage my friends, fans, and site members to share what fantasies they have, what they’d like to see on my site – or any other site. You all are the reason this industry is as big as it is. Tell us what you want to see! I promise to try my best to make it happen! ;)
Thursday, December 17, 2009
Monday, December 14, 2009
"She needed someone to show her who she could be..."
I realize I'm very much in the "public eye" when it comes to what I do... but at the same time, I'm somewhat apprehensive of the wrong people finding out. Anytime I bring up the concerns I have, I'm always asked why I continue on with what I do, and how I'm able to keep the two lives separate.
Jinxypie is a two-sided coin (as is most everyone else that’s living.) I have a private side that encompasses my family and friends, then there’s the “cuckoldress” side which involves my website and my cuckolding mission. No one in my family (excluding my husband) has any clue of my extracurricular activities. At this point in my life, I don’t feel there is a need for everyone else to know about it. They aren’t as open minded as I am, and would most certainly shun me and my husband for this. They’re real prudes sometimes, too… it’s hard for me to think about them finding out. Not only because they’d basically disown me (not like they give much thought to my feelings anyway – but that is possibly a story for another time), but because they’d see it as somehow me hurting the children and would find a way to cause drama in our lives. It’s all so unnecessary, hence the reason I choose to keep this part completely separate from my cuckoldress life.
The webmistress/cuckoldress side of me wants all females to be educated on not only cuckolding, but all other types of “open” relationships. Why do we all go around thinking that sex is something that is shameful? That open sexuality is wrong and shouldn’t be given a second thought? Sexual women are often seen as sluts and I would love to change that double-standard. (You don’t hear many men being crucified for sleeping around… unless you’re a famous sports star who built yourself on a wholesome image… right?) Why would it be better for a woman to be frustrated and almost miserable in her relationship (I’m referring to the sexual aspect) as long as she’s monogamous, than it would for everyone to have all the safe sex they want and be happier all around? …I realize I’m getting a bit off-topic. That is my mission, to educate… and to have all the fun I want personally (teaching by example!). I also have the nifty websites to take care of. This is what I love to do, and I’m not going to stop.
I won’t lie, most of the time it can be really difficult to keep both sides of my life separate. It can sometimes feel like I’m an outcast, like even the most accepting and open minded of my friends would pull away if they knew about this kink. I have to really watch what I say sometimes, in talking about “this guy I know” that has a certain job or “a friend from out of town” that came in for a visit (not going into specifics on the nature of the visit). My “regular” friends and family? Would never forgive me. I know what you’re thinking, surely it can’t be that bad, right? …I know some of you ladies are out there in the same situation as me. Living this “double life”. We have curiosities about men, fetishes, etc but won’t dare voice them, nor will we do much research online for fear of those that are following what we do, watching our every move. This goes back to an earlier blog post (or multiple posts) in which I’d like some like-minded friends to talk to sometimes. Women that are accepting of this lifestyle choice, and aren’t afraid to share about it. All women that aren’t scared of their sexuality really need to stick together, am I right? I have NEVER turned away a woman that wanted to talk about her curiosities or adjustments into this lifestyle. Granted, I don’t have as much time to devote to it as I’d like, but I’m always here for you ladies! I’d hate to find out you chose not to try this because you’re scared of society and being an outcast. If this is something you are SERIOUSLY interested in, then go for it! It takes a little bit of effort, but it’s so rewarding!
If my family found out about my extracurricular activities, it certainly wouldn’t stop me from continuing. This is my life, I’m living it how I want to, and enjoying it to the fullest. I’m not hurting anyone, I’m being safe… and you certainly shouldn’t ‘knock it until you’ve tried it!’ Maybe I’ve discovered the outlet you need in your own life! Cuckolding is fun for me and my husband, it’s an important part of our life. If this part was missing I’m sure we’d both feel a void.
Some of you know this already, but I was approached by Dr. David Ley, author of the new book Insatiable Wives, Women Who Stray and the Men Who Love Them. He’s now making a documentary along these same lines, and asked if I wanted to participate since I’m already an established web presence. I am insanely flattered by his kind words and the opportunity! But I do value my privacy. I am not at a place in my life yet to throw caution to the wind, to let the world know about my almost double life. If any of you other cuckolding/hotwifing couples out there are interested in participating in his documentary, PLEASE contact him!!! I would love to see this piece of media blasted all over the place, therefore making cuckolding more accepted amongst our peers.
Quick story… one of my friends works in an adult-related industry. About two weeks ago, one of the porn stars his company promotes walked into his office. He even got online just to express his excitement that SHE was in his office, signing autographs at his boss’s desk. I sat for a moment, and the first words that came out of my mouth were “I can’t wait for the day that a roomful of guys are beside themselves with excitement because *I* walked into their office.” LOL! Who knows what the future holds. ;)
I’m still in the process of reading Dr. Ley’s book and I will do a review once I’m finished. Special thanks to my friend and fan, Randy, for the book! Awesome gift! If any of you are interested in buying a copy, you can find it on amazon.com.
Jinxypie is a two-sided coin (as is most everyone else that’s living.) I have a private side that encompasses my family and friends, then there’s the “cuckoldress” side which involves my website and my cuckolding mission. No one in my family (excluding my husband) has any clue of my extracurricular activities. At this point in my life, I don’t feel there is a need for everyone else to know about it. They aren’t as open minded as I am, and would most certainly shun me and my husband for this. They’re real prudes sometimes, too… it’s hard for me to think about them finding out. Not only because they’d basically disown me (not like they give much thought to my feelings anyway – but that is possibly a story for another time), but because they’d see it as somehow me hurting the children and would find a way to cause drama in our lives. It’s all so unnecessary, hence the reason I choose to keep this part completely separate from my cuckoldress life.
The webmistress/cuckoldress side of me wants all females to be educated on not only cuckolding, but all other types of “open” relationships. Why do we all go around thinking that sex is something that is shameful? That open sexuality is wrong and shouldn’t be given a second thought? Sexual women are often seen as sluts and I would love to change that double-standard. (You don’t hear many men being crucified for sleeping around… unless you’re a famous sports star who built yourself on a wholesome image… right?) Why would it be better for a woman to be frustrated and almost miserable in her relationship (I’m referring to the sexual aspect) as long as she’s monogamous, than it would for everyone to have all the safe sex they want and be happier all around? …I realize I’m getting a bit off-topic. That is my mission, to educate… and to have all the fun I want personally (teaching by example!). I also have the nifty websites to take care of. This is what I love to do, and I’m not going to stop.
I won’t lie, most of the time it can be really difficult to keep both sides of my life separate. It can sometimes feel like I’m an outcast, like even the most accepting and open minded of my friends would pull away if they knew about this kink. I have to really watch what I say sometimes, in talking about “this guy I know” that has a certain job or “a friend from out of town” that came in for a visit (not going into specifics on the nature of the visit). My “regular” friends and family? Would never forgive me. I know what you’re thinking, surely it can’t be that bad, right? …I know some of you ladies are out there in the same situation as me. Living this “double life”. We have curiosities about men, fetishes, etc but won’t dare voice them, nor will we do much research online for fear of those that are following what we do, watching our every move. This goes back to an earlier blog post (or multiple posts) in which I’d like some like-minded friends to talk to sometimes. Women that are accepting of this lifestyle choice, and aren’t afraid to share about it. All women that aren’t scared of their sexuality really need to stick together, am I right? I have NEVER turned away a woman that wanted to talk about her curiosities or adjustments into this lifestyle. Granted, I don’t have as much time to devote to it as I’d like, but I’m always here for you ladies! I’d hate to find out you chose not to try this because you’re scared of society and being an outcast. If this is something you are SERIOUSLY interested in, then go for it! It takes a little bit of effort, but it’s so rewarding!
If my family found out about my extracurricular activities, it certainly wouldn’t stop me from continuing. This is my life, I’m living it how I want to, and enjoying it to the fullest. I’m not hurting anyone, I’m being safe… and you certainly shouldn’t ‘knock it until you’ve tried it!’ Maybe I’ve discovered the outlet you need in your own life! Cuckolding is fun for me and my husband, it’s an important part of our life. If this part was missing I’m sure we’d both feel a void.
Some of you know this already, but I was approached by Dr. David Ley, author of the new book Insatiable Wives, Women Who Stray and the Men Who Love Them. He’s now making a documentary along these same lines, and asked if I wanted to participate since I’m already an established web presence. I am insanely flattered by his kind words and the opportunity! But I do value my privacy. I am not at a place in my life yet to throw caution to the wind, to let the world know about my almost double life. If any of you other cuckolding/hotwifing couples out there are interested in participating in his documentary, PLEASE contact him!!! I would love to see this piece of media blasted all over the place, therefore making cuckolding more accepted amongst our peers.
Quick story… one of my friends works in an adult-related industry. About two weeks ago, one of the porn stars his company promotes walked into his office. He even got online just to express his excitement that SHE was in his office, signing autographs at his boss’s desk. I sat for a moment, and the first words that came out of my mouth were “I can’t wait for the day that a roomful of guys are beside themselves with excitement because *I* walked into their office.” LOL! Who knows what the future holds. ;)
I’m still in the process of reading Dr. Ley’s book and I will do a review once I’m finished. Special thanks to my friend and fan, Randy, for the book! Awesome gift! If any of you are interested in buying a copy, you can find it on amazon.com.
Thursday, December 3, 2009
Straight talk
As promised via my YouTube video, here’s another blog post!
A newcomer to cuckolding/femdom asked if it was natural to feel guilty at first. Talking (online, in person, over the phone, etc) to other men, especially about sex or sexual activities, is something you just don’t normally do if you’re in a committed relationship, not without your significant other present! Such activities would surely hurt the other person’s feelings and possibly ruin the relationship! (Or so we fear.)
Something I stress to EVERY man/woman/couple that has a question or concern about this (or any) lifestyle, you must be committed to having OPEN and HONEST communication. Not just about sex or the hotwifing/cuckolding side of life, but about everything, be it work, family, friends, household chores, hobbies, football, makeup, WHATEVER. The more you tell each other, the less room there is for guilt. It’s as simple as that. If you start feeling any kind of guilt, then you probably need to sit down and have a serious conversation about what it is that is making you feel that way. The second you start keeping any kind of secrets, hard feelings, or frustrations from each other, it rocks the boat. I’m pretty sure we would all prefer smooth sailing!
If you have wholeheartedly decided as a couple that this is the lifestyle you want to pursue, or at least try out, then you should put the needs of the other before your own. The ultimate way to do that is honesty. Your man is concerned about your sexual satisfaction, and wants you to be happy. It’s certainly one of the most thoughtful gifts a man could give his woman! (…the freedom to have sex anytime she wishes.) We love our men, and we want them to be satisfied as well. Listen to what he wants from this type of relationship. If he is excited helping you choose men to go out with, then make sure he’s either with you while you’re “browsing” or have him do some of the searching on his own. (If he keeps choosing men you’d keep away from, then maybe you need to discuss exactly what kind of man gets your motor running…) If he only wants to know (before hand) when/where, and not necessarily the who, then give him as many of the details as he needs to be content. Yes, it’s mostly about OUR fun, thrills and satisfaction, but be a good partner and keep him as involved as possible.
Personally, I know that in the beginning I felt some guilt. Here I was, a married woman, going out and letting loose with a wild streak, without my husband! It ate away at me for a while. I would bring it up to him, and he would always calm my worries and fears. We would talk about every last thing that was on my mind, while he took the same opportunity to pose new questions and bring up any thoughts he had on his mind. Many nights we wouldn’t get to sleep until well after2am due to these conversations. Yeah, I might have been a bit more grumpy in the morning, but both of our minds were at ease… we are certainly a much happier couple.
Honesty is always the best policy. :)
A newcomer to cuckolding/femdom asked if it was natural to feel guilty at first. Talking (online, in person, over the phone, etc) to other men, especially about sex or sexual activities, is something you just don’t normally do if you’re in a committed relationship, not without your significant other present! Such activities would surely hurt the other person’s feelings and possibly ruin the relationship! (Or so we fear.)
Something I stress to EVERY man/woman/couple that has a question or concern about this (or any) lifestyle, you must be committed to having OPEN and HONEST communication. Not just about sex or the hotwifing/cuckolding side of life, but about everything, be it work, family, friends, household chores, hobbies, football, makeup, WHATEVER. The more you tell each other, the less room there is for guilt. It’s as simple as that. If you start feeling any kind of guilt, then you probably need to sit down and have a serious conversation about what it is that is making you feel that way. The second you start keeping any kind of secrets, hard feelings, or frustrations from each other, it rocks the boat. I’m pretty sure we would all prefer smooth sailing!
If you have wholeheartedly decided as a couple that this is the lifestyle you want to pursue, or at least try out, then you should put the needs of the other before your own. The ultimate way to do that is honesty. Your man is concerned about your sexual satisfaction, and wants you to be happy. It’s certainly one of the most thoughtful gifts a man could give his woman! (…the freedom to have sex anytime she wishes.) We love our men, and we want them to be satisfied as well. Listen to what he wants from this type of relationship. If he is excited helping you choose men to go out with, then make sure he’s either with you while you’re “browsing” or have him do some of the searching on his own. (If he keeps choosing men you’d keep away from, then maybe you need to discuss exactly what kind of man gets your motor running…) If he only wants to know (before hand) when/where, and not necessarily the who, then give him as many of the details as he needs to be content. Yes, it’s mostly about OUR fun, thrills and satisfaction, but be a good partner and keep him as involved as possible.
Personally, I know that in the beginning I felt some guilt. Here I was, a married woman, going out and letting loose with a wild streak, without my husband! It ate away at me for a while. I would bring it up to him, and he would always calm my worries and fears. We would talk about every last thing that was on my mind, while he took the same opportunity to pose new questions and bring up any thoughts he had on his mind. Many nights we wouldn’t get to sleep until well after2am due to these conversations. Yeah, I might have been a bit more grumpy in the morning, but both of our minds were at ease… we are certainly a much happier couple.
Honesty is always the best policy. :)
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