The end of fetish month - Denial and Chastity

(Yes, I know this is late... cut me some slack!)

Imagine, having the most insane amount of horniness, and not being able to get off.  Sounds horrible, right?  I know for me, I can’t stand much teasing and foreplay before I just want to get right to it!  But for some people, being denied and forced into an aroused state is much more exciting than actual acts of sex or even orgasm. 

Denial comes in many forms, but is basically grouped in a “short term” or “long term” category.   Most of the popular fetishes are related to short term denial.  Long term denial can supposedly have a term limit of “indefinite” but people who go that route usually incorporate prostate milking into their activities.  Many folks choose to play with short term denial (and that term is relative to the person – 3 weeks may seem like an eternity to some but may be incredibly short to others), due to the fact that prostate milking takes practice and is sometimes a lengthy process. Some people would rather not fool with it, so they just let their cuck out weekly or every few weeks so he can masturbate, then get back in his chastity.  Personally, I love playing with this fetish.  It’s a total feeling of control and power when you can tell your cuck is aching for release and you can deny him, or let him have his orgasm.  The cuck feels an overwhelming sense of submissiveness at that point, because he practically had to beg for what he wanted.  He isn’t going to dare to do this on his own, he will be given permission from his beautiful lady first.  In getting what he wants, he may have the feelings of dread, wondering when she’ll be giving enough to let him cum again…

In cuckolding, many cucks are denied just on principle.  After all, their woman is having sex with other men, so she’s not keeping her pussy only for him.  Why would they be allowed access to the same things they had in a “standard” relationship?  The WOMAN is in charge, little cucky can do as he’s told and only hope to catch a glimpse of his lady in the nude!  Not being able to see his wife or girlfriend naked, or obviously not being allowed to have penetrative sex with her happen to be two popular forms of denial, that I personally use.  It’s such a fun game to Cuckoldresses, we can tease and taunt our cucks with just the hint of skin, or lay in bed stark naked and have hubby or boyfriend know he can only wish to be inside of you!  If hands start to roam we can always threaten to put some clothes on (ha!).  But above all else, I believe the most popular type of denial all-around is chastity.

There are so many different types of chastity belts and devices on the market.  Before buying one, some real research needs to be done.  We have purchased a few different kinds, but none of them are very good at keeping him locked up.  Most end up being too large or not made to be tight enough, and he can slip out.  Frustrating, but sometimes you have to try and fail to know what works.  I always read reviews and try to find people that have used the same products so I can get honest feedback on those types of items.  Of those we did try, one was an actual leather belt type that I absolutely did not like, but the rest were the CB types… CB-3000 I think?  Still, not enough to keep him locked away, he could get out of the back of it.  We had talked about buying the points of intrigue (I believe they are called) to prevent this, but that just kind of fell to the wayside.  Maybe we’ll play around with chastity again in the future. ;)

If a guy is locked in chastity, then he’s (obviously) unable to masturbate.  In many cases, they’re also unable to get very hard due to the device they’re wearing.  How humiliating must that be?  So aroused but scared to get very excited because of the pain they expect to feel if they do.  Makes you feel like less of a man, right?  What if your lady makes you wear the device 24 hours a day, 7 days a week?  You’re NEVER allowed a second for release!  What if you needed to go see your doctor and she forgot to unlock you?  What if you were ‘figured out’ at work?  How exciting and scary would that be?    

Men also really enjoy having the ability to get off at a moment’s notice.  Taking that away from them by putting them in chastity is quite the dominant act.  They get it in their heads the idea of pleasing their lady in hopes she’ll show mercy and unlock the chastity long enough for them to take care of business.  They become quite submissive at that point!  Think you have him wrapped around your finger now?  Ladies, you have no idea the things he’d be willing to do!  Wear lingerie – clean the house – watch the children so you can have a night out of the house – buy you that cute outfit you’ve had your eye on AND the matching shoes and purse.  Now, I’m not saying that to degrade men or to tell ladies ‘here’s the secret of getting what you want!’… this is more of a realization.  You find something they want worse than air.  Take it away.  The possibilities are near endless of what he’d be willing to do for just 20 seconds of touching his cock.  I know my husband has done many things, just to get the chance to masturbate, and sometimes so I would talk to him while he jerks off.  Sometimes getting caught up in fantasy land (mental images) is much hotter than anything we could go through in actuality.  I’m not the only woman that’s experienced the benefits – I’ve had quite a few ladies email with their stories.  Many (if not all) of them would honestly admit to never realizing how much fun they could have by denying their man of their body, or HIS body. 

Chastity isn’t just for cuckolding couples.  I’ve spoken to a few different men about their desire to be put in chastity, with different responses from each guy.  One guy is voluntarily locked up because his wife wants to make sure he never develops a masturbation problem.  No plans to enter the cuckolding lifestyle, this is all about calming her fears and for him, enjoying the time in chastity.  Very noble of him, I think.  Another husband plans to introduce his woman to the idea of cuckolding by first introducing her to chastity.  Once she gets used to the idea of having her pleasure (through toys, etc) while he has none, she may be more open to the idea of cuckolding.  I think this is a very smart way to play it, helping her to wrap her head around the thoughts of being with others while her hubby gets none.  See?  Chastity isn’t only for us freaky people! Couples are looking to enhance and better their marriages with this fetish, in their own way.