It’s the end of 2010. Another year of your life has gone by, so why not take a moment to reflect on what has been the past 365 days?
First think about the good things. The memories you have shared, the friends you’ve made, and the great times you have had. Think about all the things you have learned, how you have become a different person without even noticing, and the new foods that you lived your entire life and never knew you liked until mid-summer. Remember all the dreams you had, and all of your accomplishments? Even the little ones, they count too!
Now think about the sad things. The friends you have lost, the setbacks you have encountered, the people you have let down, and the bridges you’ve burned. Recall the moments you let pass without standing up for what you believe in, the times you have stood idly by and not righted a wrong, and the promises you have broken. Even the little ones…
Last, let’s remember the hard truths. The things you meant to do but never had the time for, the people you meant call but never did, the friends you meant to see but never saw, and the hearts you broke. Think back on all the words you said but didn’t mean, the mistakes you made, and the lies you told.
No matter how hard or easy this year was, regardless of how it could have been made better or worse, remember this one last thing. It ends, TONIGHT. Tomorrow is the start of a new year, a brand new day. Learn from your mistakes, be who YOU want to be and not who others want you to be. Spend time with those you care about, even if it means you put important things aside for a few hours. Try some new things! Perhaps 2011 is the year you learn to salsa dance, or you dabble with domination… maybe it’s the year you finally say enough is enough and quit that job that’s weighing you down. What if it’s the year you find love? Try to remain open to new possibilities, you never know what’s coming into your life but if you’re closing yourself off from it you’ll miss out before you even get the chance to like it.
The past is the past, we can’t change it. No reason to dwell on it! Let’s look forward to the coming year and jump right in with both feet!
Happy New Year, everyone!
Friday, December 31, 2010
A Mostly Lady-Blog, Stuck in a Rut!
Hey, honey, it’s Friday night! Which restaurant would you like to go to?
Oh, I don’t care. I’m kind of tired anyway. Let’s do the usual.
Ok.
It’s so easy to get into a routine and not want to change. It’s also incredibly easy to get into a rut (sexually speaking) and not want to try to spice things up. I’m personally guilty of this one… although sometimes I can chalk it up to my being lazy more than anything else. ;)
Hey, it’s Friday night! Do you have plans to go out?
Nah, not really. No one asked, and I’m kind of tired. I’m just going to stay at home and watch tv.
Oh, ok.
Ladies, some of us have a select few guys – or even one guy – that we prefer to have our cuckolding fun with. Seeing the same men over and over isn’t a bad thing, it builds relationships and trust. You feel more comfortable in those situations. While comfort is craved, too much causes things to get predictable and routine. Why not throw a new guy in the mix every now and again? New is exciting! Most of us will say it’s too hard to find someone, especially if it’s a short notice situation.
Speaking from personal experience, if I have someone cancel, I like to use the we have so much work to catch up on excuse. Yes, I said it – excuse. Usually a legitimate reason to keep things as they are and not try something different. I’ve found out that it’s really easy to make plans if you try a little. Start texting/emailing or even calling and you may be surprised at what you can get into!
What if, instead of being bummed about my guy cancelling, I started calling, emailing, or texting to see if any of my guys are available? Or go on the prowl for a new guy! Use that free time to search the web for someone interesting to chat with, or go out to a bar/club to see who’s hanging around looking for the right woman to have a little fun with. Chances are, there could be a free drink or two for your efforts!
YES, it takes a little (sometimes a lot of) effort on our parts to get ready to go out, or grab the laptop to get the ball rolling again. But in all honesty, don’t you love the thrill of getting to know someone new? Or using your girly charms to charm the guy staring at you from across the room? I know I do, I see that as a great perk of this lifestyle… meeting new people and having that “excitement” over and over again.
Sometimes we get caught up in our everyday lives and let our cuckolding plans fall by the wayside. Again, very legitimate reasons for this, we have to put our families first. But during those times it’s so easy to basically take a break from this lifestyle, to just cancel all plans with guys and show no interest in cuckolding. What message does that send to our cuck? In our minds, it says Family first! but to him, it could be saying I don’t want to cuckold anymore and I’m too scared to tell you, and I’m using this as a way to get out of it. Completely different sides to that story, huh? If you feel the need for a break, talk to your cuck about it. Tell him how you’re feeling overwhelmed or run-down from everything in your life, and I’m certain he will offer to help you out in any way that he can. Our cucks are willing to make sacrifices for our well-being and happiness; haven’t met a cuck yet that has said something different. Our satisfaction gives them pleasure.
It’s very easy to get into a rut and not want to work to get out of it. I believe that for the health and happiness of the cuckolding relationship, you may want to try to make some kind of effort to keep things fresh and exciting. Doesn’t necessarily have to be a new guy, it could be something as simple as a new fantasy to talk about. More often than not, it’s worth it! And in instances where it wasn’t, you probably came out of the experience with a great or amusing story.
Oh, I don’t care. I’m kind of tired anyway. Let’s do the usual.
Ok.
It’s so easy to get into a routine and not want to change. It’s also incredibly easy to get into a rut (sexually speaking) and not want to try to spice things up. I’m personally guilty of this one… although sometimes I can chalk it up to my being lazy more than anything else. ;)
Hey, it’s Friday night! Do you have plans to go out?
Nah, not really. No one asked, and I’m kind of tired. I’m just going to stay at home and watch tv.
Oh, ok.
Ladies, some of us have a select few guys – or even one guy – that we prefer to have our cuckolding fun with. Seeing the same men over and over isn’t a bad thing, it builds relationships and trust. You feel more comfortable in those situations. While comfort is craved, too much causes things to get predictable and routine. Why not throw a new guy in the mix every now and again? New is exciting! Most of us will say it’s too hard to find someone, especially if it’s a short notice situation.
Speaking from personal experience, if I have someone cancel, I like to use the we have so much work to catch up on excuse. Yes, I said it – excuse. Usually a legitimate reason to keep things as they are and not try something different. I’ve found out that it’s really easy to make plans if you try a little. Start texting/emailing or even calling and you may be surprised at what you can get into!
What if, instead of being bummed about my guy cancelling, I started calling, emailing, or texting to see if any of my guys are available? Or go on the prowl for a new guy! Use that free time to search the web for someone interesting to chat with, or go out to a bar/club to see who’s hanging around looking for the right woman to have a little fun with. Chances are, there could be a free drink or two for your efforts!
YES, it takes a little (sometimes a lot of) effort on our parts to get ready to go out, or grab the laptop to get the ball rolling again. But in all honesty, don’t you love the thrill of getting to know someone new? Or using your girly charms to charm the guy staring at you from across the room? I know I do, I see that as a great perk of this lifestyle… meeting new people and having that “excitement” over and over again.
Sometimes we get caught up in our everyday lives and let our cuckolding plans fall by the wayside. Again, very legitimate reasons for this, we have to put our families first. But during those times it’s so easy to basically take a break from this lifestyle, to just cancel all plans with guys and show no interest in cuckolding. What message does that send to our cuck? In our minds, it says Family first! but to him, it could be saying I don’t want to cuckold anymore and I’m too scared to tell you, and I’m using this as a way to get out of it. Completely different sides to that story, huh? If you feel the need for a break, talk to your cuck about it. Tell him how you’re feeling overwhelmed or run-down from everything in your life, and I’m certain he will offer to help you out in any way that he can. Our cucks are willing to make sacrifices for our well-being and happiness; haven’t met a cuck yet that has said something different. Our satisfaction gives them pleasure.
It’s very easy to get into a rut and not want to work to get out of it. I believe that for the health and happiness of the cuckolding relationship, you may want to try to make some kind of effort to keep things fresh and exciting. Doesn’t necessarily have to be a new guy, it could be something as simple as a new fantasy to talk about. More often than not, it’s worth it! And in instances where it wasn’t, you probably came out of the experience with a great or amusing story.
Under Pressure
It’s amazing how much pressure we put ourselves under. Sure, work has us under pressure at times with looming deadlines or a demanding boss, but I’m referring to the pressure we put on ourselves for no good reason. We want to be the best at what we do… great. That’s a good kind of pressure if your goals are realistic. More often than not, we tend to set some goals sky-high that are extremely difficult to achieve. (On a separate note, those of you that now have Queen stuck in your head after reading the title are the cool ones.)
How many times have you come across a cuckolding story or video on the internet and thought to yourself Gee, we aren’t doing all of that, and we started a month ago (six months ago, a year ago, three years ago, whatever). Maybe we’re not doing it right? Oh no! We’re not a true cuckolding couple! We need to live up to their standards!
There are many websites and a whole lot of fiction out there that like to portray fantasy as real life. Not every woman has the desire to be with black, enormously endowed men. Not every cuck likes to be humiliated or told how pathetic or what a loser he is. Most importantly, not every person on the internet is who they claim to be nor have they had the experiences that they swear to have had!
You have to realize that it is 100%, perfectly FINE to be a NOVICE when it comes to cuckolding. Don’t let any blog, video, website, or even me make you feel like you’re doing it wrong or that you’re not up to par in the cuckolding lifestyle. You aren’t going to start off at expert levels, and if you’re only dabbling in cuckolding every now and again, it could take longer than a full-time cuckolding couple to reach those kinds of comforts. Cucks shouldn’t start off thinking a bull will let him fluff just like a Cuckoldress shouldn’t go into this thinking her cuck will enjoy a creampie if he’s never done it before.
But why isn’t she jumping on the chance to see men all the time, every woman would love to have a sex life this open!?… I want to see men in my own marital bed but I think that would hurt his feelings; going out to have sex at a hotel just makes me feel cheap and I don’t like it.
It’s OK to go at a rapid pace or a snail’s pace if you need to. The key is to make sure that both parties are enjoying this. You don’t think she’s going fast enough? Ask her (nicely) why she’s taking it so slow. Perhaps she’s unsure of how you’re really taking it because you two don’t talk about it enough? And ladies, if he is trying to rush you into the next step, maybe you should realistically think about why you’re crawling to the next phase… I mean sure, sometimes they want us to jump right in bed with another guy the second we’ve finished with the first! But if reality says it’s been a while and you just aren’t interested, maybe a good long discussion is in order or maybe you just keep it slow! It really doesn’t matter to anyone but the two of you. Seriously talk about the speed in which you’d like things to go. Only want to see one guy a month? Just keep everyone up to speed. Every couple disagrees on how to do things from time to time, cuckolding is no different. Think that you should have a guy three nights a week, but your cuck thinks that’s too much? Talk about it, find out the reasons why you guys feel that way. Communicate, people!
Stop trying to live up to the hype and fantasies of people on the internet or in story books. They don’t know your relationship or understand your life, and every person – couple – relationship is NOT the same. I know I say it a lot, but I want everyone to really get it. CUCKOLDING is what YOU make of it!
How many times have you come across a cuckolding story or video on the internet and thought to yourself Gee, we aren’t doing all of that, and we started a month ago (six months ago, a year ago, three years ago, whatever). Maybe we’re not doing it right? Oh no! We’re not a true cuckolding couple! We need to live up to their standards!
There are many websites and a whole lot of fiction out there that like to portray fantasy as real life. Not every woman has the desire to be with black, enormously endowed men. Not every cuck likes to be humiliated or told how pathetic or what a loser he is. Most importantly, not every person on the internet is who they claim to be nor have they had the experiences that they swear to have had!
You have to realize that it is 100%, perfectly FINE to be a NOVICE when it comes to cuckolding. Don’t let any blog, video, website, or even me make you feel like you’re doing it wrong or that you’re not up to par in the cuckolding lifestyle. You aren’t going to start off at expert levels, and if you’re only dabbling in cuckolding every now and again, it could take longer than a full-time cuckolding couple to reach those kinds of comforts. Cucks shouldn’t start off thinking a bull will let him fluff just like a Cuckoldress shouldn’t go into this thinking her cuck will enjoy a creampie if he’s never done it before.
But why isn’t she jumping on the chance to see men all the time, every woman would love to have a sex life this open!?… I want to see men in my own marital bed but I think that would hurt his feelings; going out to have sex at a hotel just makes me feel cheap and I don’t like it.
It’s OK to go at a rapid pace or a snail’s pace if you need to. The key is to make sure that both parties are enjoying this. You don’t think she’s going fast enough? Ask her (nicely) why she’s taking it so slow. Perhaps she’s unsure of how you’re really taking it because you two don’t talk about it enough? And ladies, if he is trying to rush you into the next step, maybe you should realistically think about why you’re crawling to the next phase… I mean sure, sometimes they want us to jump right in bed with another guy the second we’ve finished with the first! But if reality says it’s been a while and you just aren’t interested, maybe a good long discussion is in order or maybe you just keep it slow! It really doesn’t matter to anyone but the two of you. Seriously talk about the speed in which you’d like things to go. Only want to see one guy a month? Just keep everyone up to speed. Every couple disagrees on how to do things from time to time, cuckolding is no different. Think that you should have a guy three nights a week, but your cuck thinks that’s too much? Talk about it, find out the reasons why you guys feel that way. Communicate, people!
Stop trying to live up to the hype and fantasies of people on the internet or in story books. They don’t know your relationship or understand your life, and every person – couple – relationship is NOT the same. I know I say it a lot, but I want everyone to really get it. CUCKOLDING is what YOU make of it!
Tuesday, December 7, 2010
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