You agreed to take the leap... now what?

You had the discussions with your man, both expressed your fears and concerns, got over the insecurities and worries, and have decided to take that next-step with cuckolding.  But where do you start? How hard is it to find someone interested in sleeping with a married woman, whose husband knows about her infidelity?  Well ladies, it can be as easy or as hard as you make it.

There are so many different routes, it honestly depends on your personality and comfort level.  If you’re gung-ho about doing this and want to start your search immediately, why not go bar-hopping?  Either alone, or with a few close girl-friends that wouldn’t give you a sideways glance once you’re dancing hot and heavy with a sexy guy.  Lots of single guys (as well as the married and looking guys) frequent bars with other guy friends, so there are usually some good choices at any bar.  There are a lot of women that will attest to the fact that wearing their wedding ring has actually got them hit on by men.  It seems that guys see a hot woman out on the town to be a sign she’s unhappy at home, and looking for some excitement.  While that may not always be the case, it’s certainly a fun fantasy for the guy, being the hot stud that gives a sly wink and ends up bedding the beautiful lady.  No strings, just sex, as afterwards she goes home to her (unknowing?) husband.   

If you are able to let your friends or family in on your cuckolding lifestyle (and they’re accepting of it), then maybe they know a friend looking for a fling.  Don’t be afraid to use the contacts in your life to find guys!  Yes, this one has risks if you’re not able to share everything with your friends/family, but it’s probably one of the safer routes to go.  Your best friend won’t set you up with a psychopath, right?  She’ll have your best interests at heart!  I’ve had a guy that I see try to get one of his friends over to see me.  The other guy thought it was a really weird situation and it never worked out, but I didn’t let that get me down.  Not everyone is open to open relationships…

The route I chose at first was to sign up for those adult dating websites online.  I was 100% clear about what I wanted and who I was when I wrote my profile.  Something you all know if you’ve ever signed up for an online dating site is, most people don’t completely read your profiles.  They may glance at the first line or two, but all they really want to see is pictures of you, and for them to send pictures of themselves (usually body / penis shots, rarely would a guy send a face picture at first).  I’ve read a lot of profiles of people that are sick of the games, tired of fakes, and want you to send some kind of codeword in the subject of your message to prove you read their entire profile.  What amuses me is those people don’t always read the entire profile themselves!  Another option to the dating sites is – Craigslist.  Yes, I said it.  Just find the appropriate section, post an ad, being as specific as possible, and watch the inbox get flooded.  With either of those options (dating sites, Craigslist) you need to be picky. Don’t go with the first person to send you a message simply because they were the first to show interest, they may not be what you want!  Don’t worry about trying to answer every email with a thoughtful response, either.  If they aren’t what you’re looking for, just respond with a simple “No thanks” or “We’re looking for different things” or something along those lines.   Hit "delete" and move on.

DO NOT put yourself in any situation that makes you uncomfortable.  If you and your husband/boyfriend decide that he gets a “say-so” on which guys you see, then don’t do anything without his knowledge.  I know a lot of couples that have the arrangement where the woman will go to meet the guy for the first time with her husband/boyfriend before a date for sex is ever set up.  Not for the “connection” aspect, but just to satisfy their personal curiosities of how this person acts in public, ask him any questions – just to make sure he’s really what she’s looking for. Girls, if your guy wants to come along on one date to meet the guy, then he needs to be there.  Your husband/boyfriend has your safety in mind.  Don’t push him out for being protective of his love! 

These suggestions don’t cover every way of meeting guys to have sex with, but it’s a start.  Use caution, don’t rush into things, and have fun with it!  Cuckolding is a wonderful experience; you’re gonna have the time of your life!