Yesterday I had a very important phone call. Mike and I have spoken a couple of times, and will probably continue these talks every month or so. He said something that has really started to fester… well, we’ve discussed it before but my mind keeps coming back to it, and I wanted to talk about it.
As women, sometimes we don’t fully understand the lengths our men are willing to go for our happiness, the things they would do that they never once considered doing just to see us smile or tell them how happy we are because of it. Take a man who has never had any interest in wearing women’s lingerie or never had any sexual feelings towards a woman’s feet. If you made the comment that you think it’d be really hot to see your man in a pair of lacy black panties, or how turned on you get when someone licks your toes, you can bet that your man would be opening your panty drawer or pulling off your high heels to make your wishes come true. It has no meaning to them as far as excitement for themselves, but seeing you get aroused by such acts? They’ll do it without a second thought.
It also needs to be said that women are also pushing their comfort levels to try new things to keep things exciting, or to try something her man would like to do. Women take cues from their guy, whether it’s talk during sex about trying out a larger sex toy or bringing in another person – male or female – to make things incredibly exciting, or if it’s something brought up outside of the bedroom, like telling your lady it’s OK for her to go have a girls night out, and saying you’ll help her pick out an outfit to go out in… it’s YOUR hints and statements that let us know where your brain is at (obviously). It helps us to know which paths you’d like us to tread down.
Now it goes without saying that every person should have their “no way” list… as in No way. I’m not into that stuff and won’t ever be, so don’t even push the matter. Sometimes we just can’t make ourselves OK with certain fetishes or ideas, no matter what. However, you must also keep in mind that as people change, so do our comfort levels and thresholds. What once was seen as off-limits may become OK or acceptable down the road. (girl-girl, anal… just sayin’.)
Just knowing that a man would be willing to give up his masculinity for the woman he loves, or that a woman would be OK with experimenting with bondage or humiliation because it's what her man wants to try... speaks volumes about their relationship. The simple fact that one would take something that isn’t their idea of sexy, and make it happen because their partner gets incredibly turned on by it, seems like one great act of love.
This is a tough one kind of the yin and yang of cuckolding. On the one hand you need to be true to your values to not compromise on what makes you the person that you are.
ReplyDeleteAt the same time you need to be open to explore and grow...to take risks outside of your comfort zone to grow as a couple.
When we were first married we worked very hard to live the good life, to make our marriage work, being monogamous and faithful to each other. It was the furthest thing from my mind that my role as the perfect husband would be to encourage and assist my wife in finding other men for her to have sex with.
I often wonder what our life would be like if we started sooner, if I recognized her interest and tendencies and let her natural cuckoldress desires blossom early. Part of me regrets not pursuing this earlier and part of me thinks we weren't ready.
I know the next few years will be fantastic. My wife is becoming much more comfortable and open in her desires and in her sexuality. She is a much more confident woman and more secure and accepting of her body and her sexual appeal.
My sexual fetishes have most definitely been shaped by what i thought Dominant Women wanted. Many of the things that turn me on now would have disgusted me years ago when i was still wanting a vanilla relationship.
ReplyDeleteMy exploration of my submissiveness lead me to wearing panties because many Women declared that they liked small penises to be in panties. Wearing panties lead onto getting pleasure from Humiliation - i still remember being terrified of the thought of taking pictures of me in panties or my peewee - now i jump at the chance if a Woman requests it. Constantly watching Femdom and cuckholding porn and stories has definitely made me want to suck cock too as this seems to be common theme of the cuck process.