One of my favorite YouTuber’s, sxephil (who has new episodes weekly, Monday through Thursday), talked about something this week that really got me thinking. Dangerous, I know! Every year a certain college releases a study on cultural “touchstones” that effect college students in their lifetime. The students entering college this year were born in 1992! Few of them know how to write in cursive, food has always been irradiated, and it seems that the Post Office has always been going broke.
I bet you’re wondering, so how does all that relate to the usual topics of this blog? It sparked a discussion with hubby on how these young whippersnappers think. How they aren’t as hindered by the way their parents think and feel. They don’t use their parents past to pave an exact path for their future. I have always thought a little differently than the rest of my family, even if I wasn’t as verbally expressive about it as I think I should have been. Growing up in the Bible Belt, you’re expected to think and feel a certain way. Growing up in the South means you are redneck and intolerant of interracial relationships and even homosexuality.
The world is constantly changing, as is the way that people think. It seems that the “younger generation” is much more open in their ways of thinking than their parents and the generations prior to them. They aren’t as quick to condemn someone for being a little different. Because of their openness and willingness to explore things different from them, some of the “older generations” are starting to adopt that line of thinking and not be too quick to judge. Some of the lifestyle choices that were frowned upon not even 20 years ago are so widely accepted now, no one gives them a second thought. I saw a bumper sticker the other day that said "A mind is like a parachute. It doesn't work if it isn't open". Bumper sticker wisdom aside, it's still true and more and more people are open minded not because they were taught to be, it's just they never thought about being anything else.
I know I talk a lot about open mindedness but I think it's an issue that can use as much publicity as possible. The world is so full of intolerance towards things that really don't matter that much. Look at prop 8, Homosexuals wanted the right to get married, to be able to show their love for one another in a bond, get insurance breaks, have the next of kin they picked, enjoy a ceremony that probably costs way too much, get joint checking accounts, and for that matter make sure they get half on the off-chance the other person runs away with the UPS guy/girl. They weren't asking for the right to go to your kid’s high school and attempt to convert them. The point is, what doesn't hurt you – well, doesn't hurt you. Everything happens a lot slower than you realize while you’re living it, but when you look back it really didn't take that long. We have a black President. You can say almost anything short of the word "fuck" on television, and for that matter there’s almost any form of undress short of actual nudity. In most places interracial couples go about their business and no one cares or gives them a second look. That's not to say that the world doesn't have its share of prudes; there are still those so offended by nudity they feel they should impose their views on everyone because their way of thinking is the only right way. This is how it will always be; it's their right to have those views. That doesn't mean the rest of us should give up on how we feel.
Marriages are different now as well. You rarely heard of swingers when I was growing up, and when you did it was in a negative light. Now, I know quite a few of them, even ones I didn’t suspect were kinky! These days younger couples are more experienced with their sexuality and men and women alike are more open to try to push the limit of their sexual comfort zones, whether it be swinging, threesomes, cuckolding, role playing, and even homoeroticism. What can we all learn from this generation? (A generation that I should add is still producing lawyers, doctors, nurses, accountants, politicians, solders, business men and women, teachers, etc.) Just because these people have a different view on sex doesn't mean their morals are corrupt or that they don't have the ability to lead a company, or help others in need.
Sexuality has been a touchy subject for thousands of years; horny women were thought to be hysterical in Victorian times. During these times women cuckolded their husbands with their doctors, who would provide them with "medically" induced orgasms to "treat" them. Why did they? The same reason women still do today, because their husbands were either always busy, they weren't able to satisfy them, or they wanted a little variety without the guilt.
So let's all do something, I know I don't usually ask for reader response and I am curious as to how much I will actually get. I know I have lots of readers that aren't necessarily into the cuckolding world, but are into some type of kink or fascinated with their sexual limits.
How is your life better or just different since you made the decision to let go of your sexual inhibitions? If you would please let me know your age range (in groups of 18-25, 26-25, 35-50, or 50 plus), your gender, and a little about yourself and your sexual lifestyle.
Saturday, August 21, 2010
Wednesday, August 11, 2010
Brains = the most powerful tool...
I’ve had the pleasure of speaking to some of you fine folks over the phone in the past month and a half. I appreciate each and every phone call! People make comments about how “factual” I am or how “sharp” I sound, and all of that makes me feel so good, but what people don’t seem to realize is that I see each of these phone calls as a learning opportunity. I can learn about the relationships of others that are either interested in or have been actively in cuckolding relationships, and see how those differ from my own experiences. Taking these calls is a very bright spot in my day! And even though I ask for ratings and feedback, more than half the callers don’t do such, even though it’d boost my ratings a bit and make me look more credible on paper. (haha)
Anyway, I’ve had a couple callers asking about my sex life with my husband. Hey, if I’m an open book just about everywhere else, why would I censor myself on the phone? Something they seem to be extremely curious about is, do I still enjoy sex with him? To which I reply, we have our own way of doing things and while it may not always be penetrative sex, it’s still sex to us. But that doesn’t mean he’s never inside of me, or that those times he happens to be in me that I hate every second. Quite the opposite, actually. Let me explain…
Sex feels good on a physical level. Different partners create different feelings, right? Due to size, technique, whatever. So how do you still enjoy sex with a partner that’s not as large as the others? You can mentally take yourself to higher levels. Oh yes, my friends, I’m a firm believer that an orgasm can be just as much a mental thing as a physical thing. I’m not alone in this belief, either.
After talking to many different guys about this theory, I did some actual research on the web. What I found was quite interesting, many of the articles or websites claiming to deal with this fact are truly only trying to help males bring their female partners to orgasm through physical stimulation. Nothing wrong with that, mind you! The more a guy knows, the better he’ll be at this. But there was one article that stands out, one that is dealing with the theory of orgasms being a mental thing, not just physical.
It has come to public knowledge that there are some women out there that can either voluntarily or involuntarily bring themselves to orgasm just by thinking. There is a study being done by a Dr. Komisaruk, author of The Orgasm Answer Guide. This doctor is using MRIs to study brain activity during a female’s orgasm. I find it quite fascinating! Especially since preliminary results are that women that can bring themselves to orgasm from mental stimulation show the same brain activities as those that are being physically stimulated to achieve orgasm. Pretty cool, huh?
I’ve personally found these mental orgasms to be quite intense, much moreso than physically-driven ones. You talk with your partner about fantasies, about what you’ve been feeling, and you can just close your eyes and be there mentally. Your breath becomes quicker, heart rate increases… and before you know it, you’ve brought yourself (yes, with the assistance of your partner) to that happy orgasmic place. Hub’s getting pretty good at helping me get there mentally. Why would I turn down an opportunity to feel good? ;)
That being said, it is very possible for me to enjoy sex with my husband and his smaller-than-average endowment. So why do I continue to cuckold him? Well, it’s not solely about sex. Don’t get me wrong, that’s a big part of it, the physical acts of sex are much quicker than becoming aroused through mental stimulation. It’s about differences in partners and experiences. Not many guys will do things in a similar manner… they have different personalities, sexual demeanor, and of course sizes. But this is also about control and power. Being a Cuckoldress puts the woman in charge of certain aspects of the relationship, a power she may have never realized she could have over her man. It’s about fantasies being fulfilled. The cuck dreams about watching his lady with another man… the Cuckoldress may dream about multiple partners at a time, or one partner in particular, or being in exotic locations… who knows? Fantasies are fun to talk about and to play out. This is also about freedom! As a Cuckoldress, I am free to have the type of sexual lifestyle that many women dream of, and that many men want their wives or girlfriends to have. I get to be as choosy as I want, picking partners that meet my standards. Or if I just want to sit back and snuggle with my hubby, I have every freedom to do such.
Back to the topic at hand, I have one last statement regarding mental orgasms. Ladies: If you’ve never had one, you should really try it. Might be the best one you’ve had that didn’t require another individual! ;)
Anyway, I’ve had a couple callers asking about my sex life with my husband. Hey, if I’m an open book just about everywhere else, why would I censor myself on the phone? Something they seem to be extremely curious about is, do I still enjoy sex with him? To which I reply, we have our own way of doing things and while it may not always be penetrative sex, it’s still sex to us. But that doesn’t mean he’s never inside of me, or that those times he happens to be in me that I hate every second. Quite the opposite, actually. Let me explain…
Sex feels good on a physical level. Different partners create different feelings, right? Due to size, technique, whatever. So how do you still enjoy sex with a partner that’s not as large as the others? You can mentally take yourself to higher levels. Oh yes, my friends, I’m a firm believer that an orgasm can be just as much a mental thing as a physical thing. I’m not alone in this belief, either.
After talking to many different guys about this theory, I did some actual research on the web. What I found was quite interesting, many of the articles or websites claiming to deal with this fact are truly only trying to help males bring their female partners to orgasm through physical stimulation. Nothing wrong with that, mind you! The more a guy knows, the better he’ll be at this. But there was one article that stands out, one that is dealing with the theory of orgasms being a mental thing, not just physical.
It has come to public knowledge that there are some women out there that can either voluntarily or involuntarily bring themselves to orgasm just by thinking. There is a study being done by a Dr. Komisaruk, author of The Orgasm Answer Guide. This doctor is using MRIs to study brain activity during a female’s orgasm. I find it quite fascinating! Especially since preliminary results are that women that can bring themselves to orgasm from mental stimulation show the same brain activities as those that are being physically stimulated to achieve orgasm. Pretty cool, huh?
I’ve personally found these mental orgasms to be quite intense, much moreso than physically-driven ones. You talk with your partner about fantasies, about what you’ve been feeling, and you can just close your eyes and be there mentally. Your breath becomes quicker, heart rate increases… and before you know it, you’ve brought yourself (yes, with the assistance of your partner) to that happy orgasmic place. Hub’s getting pretty good at helping me get there mentally. Why would I turn down an opportunity to feel good? ;)
That being said, it is very possible for me to enjoy sex with my husband and his smaller-than-average endowment. So why do I continue to cuckold him? Well, it’s not solely about sex. Don’t get me wrong, that’s a big part of it, the physical acts of sex are much quicker than becoming aroused through mental stimulation. It’s about differences in partners and experiences. Not many guys will do things in a similar manner… they have different personalities, sexual demeanor, and of course sizes. But this is also about control and power. Being a Cuckoldress puts the woman in charge of certain aspects of the relationship, a power she may have never realized she could have over her man. It’s about fantasies being fulfilled. The cuck dreams about watching his lady with another man… the Cuckoldress may dream about multiple partners at a time, or one partner in particular, or being in exotic locations… who knows? Fantasies are fun to talk about and to play out. This is also about freedom! As a Cuckoldress, I am free to have the type of sexual lifestyle that many women dream of, and that many men want their wives or girlfriends to have. I get to be as choosy as I want, picking partners that meet my standards. Or if I just want to sit back and snuggle with my hubby, I have every freedom to do such.
Back to the topic at hand, I have one last statement regarding mental orgasms. Ladies: If you’ve never had one, you should really try it. Might be the best one you’ve had that didn’t require another individual! ;)
Thursday, August 5, 2010
Rockin' and Rollin' and whatnot...
Hey guys. How’s it going?
Wait, this doesn’t seem like a typical Jinxy blog! You’re probably saying to yourself… and you’re right. I just wanted to take a second and talk to you all. While these blogs are informative and discussing things that are on my mind, sometimes they feel impersonal. More “teaching and discussion” and less “what’s going on in my life”. It’s time to throw one of those in the mix.
I’m sure you can tell from the obvious slow-down in updates I’m having a really busy summer. Not filled with exotic vacations or a hoppin’ social schedule. Just trying to work hard and keep things low-key around here. We have big plans for the next few months and I want to do everything I can to ensure it will be successful. It’s something we’ve wanted for a long time, and we’re so close to making it reality. Nothing will get in the way!!! I also reconnected with an old friend this summer. Kind of funny, actually, we’ve been living in the same town for 2+ years and just found each other again last week. I get a little teary when I think about how close we used to be (best friends from 4th grade through high school, and for a while after) and then we just dropped out of each other’s lives. She accepts and understands who I am, and she’s happy that I’m so happy with my life. THAT is the type of friend we need in our lives.
It hasn’t all been chocolates and roses though. There have been family members with health issues or conditions that need(ed) addressing. There’s the balancing act of keeping everyone happy while at the same time making sure everything is properly taken care of. And then there’s the laundry! But that’s part of life (the downside, not necessarily the laundry)… we deal with the good and the bad simultaneously. We can’t pick and choose – well, unless we’re in some sort of denial about our lives.
I believe I lead a pretty awesome life. I’m very lucky to be where I am, and even more lucky to have the best husband in the world that I love to pieces. I have some amazing friends that’d drop everything to help me out (lookin’ at you, KC!). I am very lucky.
Enough babble from me. REAL interesting blog coming next week. ;)
Toodles!
Wait, this doesn’t seem like a typical Jinxy blog! You’re probably saying to yourself… and you’re right. I just wanted to take a second and talk to you all. While these blogs are informative and discussing things that are on my mind, sometimes they feel impersonal. More “teaching and discussion” and less “what’s going on in my life”. It’s time to throw one of those in the mix.
I’m sure you can tell from the obvious slow-down in updates I’m having a really busy summer. Not filled with exotic vacations or a hoppin’ social schedule. Just trying to work hard and keep things low-key around here. We have big plans for the next few months and I want to do everything I can to ensure it will be successful. It’s something we’ve wanted for a long time, and we’re so close to making it reality. Nothing will get in the way!!! I also reconnected with an old friend this summer. Kind of funny, actually, we’ve been living in the same town for 2+ years and just found each other again last week. I get a little teary when I think about how close we used to be (best friends from 4th grade through high school, and for a while after) and then we just dropped out of each other’s lives. She accepts and understands who I am, and she’s happy that I’m so happy with my life. THAT is the type of friend we need in our lives.
It hasn’t all been chocolates and roses though. There have been family members with health issues or conditions that need(ed) addressing. There’s the balancing act of keeping everyone happy while at the same time making sure everything is properly taken care of. And then there’s the laundry! But that’s part of life (the downside, not necessarily the laundry)… we deal with the good and the bad simultaneously. We can’t pick and choose – well, unless we’re in some sort of denial about our lives.
I believe I lead a pretty awesome life. I’m very lucky to be where I am, and even more lucky to have the best husband in the world that I love to pieces. I have some amazing friends that’d drop everything to help me out (lookin’ at you, KC!). I am very lucky.
Enough babble from me. REAL interesting blog coming next week. ;)
Toodles!
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