Brains = the most powerful tool...

I’ve had the pleasure of speaking to some of you fine folks over the phone in the past month and a half.  I appreciate each and every phone call!  People make comments about how “factual” I am or how “sharp” I sound, and all of that makes me feel so good, but what people don’t seem to realize is that I see each of these phone calls as a learning opportunity.  I can learn about the relationships of others that are either interested in or have been actively in cuckolding relationships, and see how those differ from my own experiences.  Taking these calls is a very bright spot in my day!  And even though I ask for ratings and feedback, more than half the callers don’t do such, even though it’d boost my ratings a bit and make me look more credible on paper. (haha)

Anyway, I’ve had a couple callers asking about my sex life with my husband.  Hey, if I’m an open book just about everywhere else, why would I censor myself on the phone?  Something they seem to be extremely curious about is, do I still enjoy sex with him?  To which I reply, we have our own way of doing things and while it may not always be penetrative sex, it’s still sex to us.  But that doesn’t mean he’s never inside of me, or that those times he happens to be in me that I hate every second.  Quite the opposite, actually.  Let me explain…

Sex feels good on a physical level.  Different partners create different feelings, right?  Due to size, technique, whatever.  So how do you still enjoy sex with a partner that’s not as large as the others?  You can mentally take yourself to higher levels.  Oh yes, my friends, I’m a firm believer that an orgasm can be just as much a mental thing as a physical thing.  I’m not alone in this belief, either. 

After talking to many different guys about this theory, I did some actual research on the web.  What I found was quite interesting, many of the articles or websites claiming to deal with this fact are truly only trying to help males bring their female partners to orgasm through physical stimulation.  Nothing wrong with that, mind you!  The more a guy knows, the better he’ll be at this. But there was one article that stands out, one that is dealing with the theory of orgasms being a mental thing, not just physical. 

It has come to public knowledge that there are some women out there that can either voluntarily or involuntarily bring themselves to orgasm just by thinking. There is a study being done by a Dr. Komisaruk, author of The Orgasm Answer Guide.  This doctor is using MRIs to study brain activity during a female’s orgasm.  I find it quite fascinating!  Especially since preliminary results are that women that can bring themselves to orgasm from mental stimulation show the same brain activities as those that are being physically stimulated to achieve orgasm.  Pretty cool, huh? 

 I’ve personally found these mental orgasms to be quite intense, much moreso than physically-driven ones.  You talk with your partner about fantasies, about what you’ve been feeling, and you can just close your eyes and be there mentally.  Your breath becomes quicker, heart rate increases… and before you know it, you’ve brought yourself (yes, with the assistance of your partner) to that happy orgasmic place.  Hub’s getting pretty good at helping me get there mentally.  Why would I turn down an opportunity to feel good? ;)

That being said, it is very possible for me to enjoy sex with my husband and his smaller-than-average endowment.  So why do I continue to cuckold him?  Well, it’s not solely about sex.  Don’t get me wrong, that’s a big part of it, the physical acts of sex are much quicker than becoming aroused through mental stimulation.  It’s about differences in partners and experiences.  Not many guys will do things in a similar manner… they have different personalities, sexual demeanor, and of course sizes.  But this is also about control and power.  Being a Cuckoldress puts the woman in charge of certain aspects of the relationship, a power she may have never realized she could have over her man.  It’s about fantasies being fulfilled.  The cuck dreams about watching his lady with another man… the Cuckoldress may dream about multiple partners at a time, or one partner in particular, or being in exotic locations… who knows?  Fantasies are fun to talk about and to play out.  This is also about freedom!  As a Cuckoldress, I am free to have the type of sexual lifestyle that many women dream of, and that many men want their wives or girlfriends to have.  I get to be as choosy as I want, picking partners that meet my standards.  Or if I just want to sit back and snuggle with my hubby, I have every freedom to do such.

Back to the topic at hand, I have one last statement regarding mental orgasms.   Ladies:  If you’ve never had one, you should really try it. Might be the best one you’ve had that didn’t require another individual! ;)