I like to try to focus certain blogs on emails or questions I receive from readers and viewers. Most of the time, because I don't actually have the questions stockpiled, it is hard for me to create the topics for my blog. It's not that the information isn't there, it's just that it doesn't always occur to me as topics people would be interested in... this week's blog holds very true to that. What I find very interesting about it is that I don't get this question as often as you might think I do, but within two hours I received the same question from two separate people. They were obviously worded differently, but they both boil down to this;
I really want my wife to cuckold me, she is very interested in living this lifestyle. I am just so worried that she will find another guy, like him more, and then leave me.
For there to only be two sentences above, there is actually a lot happening in that thought process. If you are in this situation and you have brought this to your wife or she you, then there is already something missing from, or in the least something that could be better about your sexual relationship. Odds are if you're thinking it, so is the other half of your marriage/relationship. (Not ALWAYS the case, but it happens quite often.) The problem is that there is a flaw in the way men think about this lifestyle. Because they only want one partner, they can't help but see the world though those glasses, and naturally assume their wife or girlfriend would be thinking with the exact same set of views. The issue lies in the first sentence: "She is very interested in living this lifestyle." Meaning she doesn't have the desire to just have one man, she wants multiple, for whatever reason or reasons she sees fit. On top of many other things, the desire to be a Cuckoldress is the desire to not be constrained by the social rules of only being with one person at a time, whether it be strictly sexual, relationship based, or both. She wants to have her cake and eat it too; she is interested is keeping the same relationship she has now with you and expanding it, not replacing it. I'm not saying this never happens, but when it does it happens because of other external circumstances, like if you're an asshole or abusive, or you just can't get along (or a multitude of other possible reasons), then yes she may leave you, that would have happened regardless of cuckolding. If you make her happy, share the same interests, and get along, then why would she have any reason or circumstances to leave? Make sense? No?
How about this. You have a Porsche and you've had it for 3 years, she runs great, looks awesome, you know exactly how far to push the clutch for optimum shifting, you're comfortable driving it at fast speeds, etc, ... but she just doesn't excite you when you drive her anymore. (Now in this analogy, money is no object.) So you go to the Audi store and pick out a brand new car. She's gorgeous! You sit down and feel the excitement, the newness of it all. But what about the Porsche? No one is saying you can't have two cars, you don't have any financial reasons to get rid of it, you can be the owner of a Porsche and an Audi. Why would you even contemplate getting rid of one of them? Cake and eating it too.
But Jinxy! Real life and cars are two totally different things! Yep, I knew that... Think about it, though. If you're looking for that extra bit of excitement, but still have an attachment (relationship) with the current 'model', how is this a bad thing? ;)
Most couples entering into a Cuckolding lifestyle are so willing to shed those absurd rules that society dictates to us about what defines a marriage, and what is and isn't tawdry. We often times retain certain pieces that we don't realize are part of that way of looking at things. Some people have the fears of being replaced, because that's what you believe should happen, but for the woman in this situation it never crossed her mind to replace you. Why do something like that when she can have you and anyone else she wants?
Women who are open to and embrace this lifestyle usually learn pretty quickly that having the best of both worlds is a million times better than having to pick one or the other.
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