For a lot of you, a portion of your lifestyle is spent in fantasy. Some more than others, but we all do it. (Yes, even me!) Today's topic is more on the tougher side of reality for some people.
I get emails from couples, and sometimes either the male or female, expressing concerns that the wife doesn't feel she is attractive enough to live the cuckolding lifestyle. My natural response to this is to tell them not to think that way! ...But then I think, how can I say that? I think that way (about myself) too.
This is one of those tricky little fears we all have. We think we are the only people that feel that way and I have never really been able to figure out why. There are so many things that only happen to random people, and if we are one of those random people we assume it happens to everyone. Being self conscious isn't one of those things. It happens to everyone. Maybe not all the time and certainly to different degrees, but it still happens. I am not going to say you women need to stop, because I have no intentions of doing so. But what do we do about it?
I would recommend first, not allowing those fears and insecurities to control you. Yes there are days that I am worried about one thing or another, but I still live the way I want. Also, if you can't lose it (these feelings you're having), use it. Take advantage of the fact that you are being overly conscious of yourself and use that to help you improve the things that you want to! Not in some unhealthy, obsessive way but, whether it's working out a little more, or coming up with a new schedule for exfoliating, or even finding a new makeup style - use those concerns. When we put a little effort into ourselves, it gives us a confidence boost. Bottom line is you should still live your life the way you want!
Desires, likes, and dislikes are all about perception, just like everything else in life. I don't like onions, my husband loves them. You may think your nose is too big, but 1 out of every 4 people adore it. Think your boobs are too small or too large? Funny thing! I actually have this issue and it comes into play from time to time in emails that I receive. It's no secret that I want larger boobs, but I get messages every week telling me not to, because they love them. I'm not trying to go off on a rant about me, just pointing out that just because you don't like something about you, doesn't mean there aren't hundreds or thousands of people out there who think you are a perfect person, and want nothing more than to have you!
I get messages telling me how bad someone wants to be with me, and then the next message is from someone telling me they're amazed I can find one guy to have sex with me. You're not for everyone, and neither am I. It's the way the real world works. Be confident in who YOU are, and have an understanding that not everyone will like the 'you' they see. But you should also expect to find some that absolutely love you! It comes with the territory of being a sexual person and even more so if you're confident about it.
If this is the life you want, live it. If you want to be a Cuckoldress, be one in the way you choose; you shouldn't tell yourself you can't be a true Cuckoldress because you don't think you look the part.
The truth is there is no "part", that's just fantasy. Be real. Be YOU.
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