Saturday, May 1, 2010

'Strange is just a different point of view...'

Co-written by Jinxypie and her Hub.

In all reality, most people look at things differently. In your circle of friends you have things in common and all get along great. What most people don’t see is how everyone perceives things just a little differently. Let’s say while discussing some piece of news or something considered gossip, you all take a different view on the subject. While most of the time you give the topic at hand no more than a few seconds of conscious thought, there are instances when you realize that you are uncomfortable, amused, interested or even shocked by the topic. In these situations no one person is right or wrong, everyone is raised differently in many different surroundings or came to their own conclusions about these subjects, many times without ever being exposed to them personally.

Please remember I am using these following examples as purely that - “examples”. I don’t condone, condemn, or for the most part even form an opinion about the specific subjects mentioned. I simply want you to look at a few “trendy” instances of how cultures and societies are slightly and sometimes dramatically different with an open mind and I’ll get to the point sooner or later.

In Iran, any suntanned woman will be imprisoned. As an American woman, and an extremely fair-skinned one at that, I couldn’t imagine being told by my government that I cannot use a tanning bed anymore, or even tan outside my own home. The fine for such debauchery is imprisonment. Yet most of you women get up every morning and head out of the house without ever thinking about covering up every inch of your exposed skin. You are probably thinking ‘Wow that is unbelievable! How could a woman be mistreated like that? I could never live that way. I have my beliefs and that is incomprehensible.’ If that’s what you thought then you’re not getting the idea here. What you need to do in this situation is think of how these women who live this way every day and have no problems with it would think of YOU. How would they be able to wrap their heads around the idea of each of you whoreish women who show their faces, arms, and maybe even ankles in public? Not to mention those of us who bare more than that. Do you see what I’m getting at? Most of you are being judged right now for things you consider completely normal. Granted, these people don’t know your names or who you are but we as a society are being judged nonetheless by others for doing everyday mundane tasks like wearing a pair of shorts. It’s all about perception!

How about this? The legal drinking age in Canada is (depending on the territory and province) 18 or 19 years. There’s no minimum drinking age in Ireland as long as you’re with a parent and not in a public place. In the United Kingdom, you may drink alcohol at age 5 in private, at age 16 in a public place as long as it’s with a meal and you’re accompanied by an adult, or otherwise at age 18. In the United States, the ripe age of 21 years is the magic number for legally drinking and purchasing alcoholic beverages. After reading this I’m confident that the majority of you knew that the legal drinking ages in other countries varied, I’m also pretty certain that at least half of you knew that in some countries children could drink legally. So the aforementioned statement didn’t shock you. I am also sure the other half of you had never given it a second thought, and if asked would have probably assumed that the legal age to consume alcohol in different parts of the world was somewhere in the vicinity of 21. This is what I would like you to focus on. As humans we tend to assume things based on what we have been exposed to, never putting a second thought into the subtle behaviors of others that are inclined to different ways of thinking. If any of those people that were shocked to learn this information were to visit the UK and noticed a 16 year old drinking a beer, they would most likely wait to see if the police came to arrest the parent for child abuse. The idea here is don’t always assume things of others just because you haven’t seen them do it. This goes for anything, not just drinking a beer.

What about nudity on television? Ever watched British TV and saw a little more than you expected? They aren’t as worried about someone seeing a woman’s breasts or someone’s buttocks on a television show. Keep in mind this is on regular programming, not HBO or Cinemax. Imagine watching an episode of Friends in which Phoebe decides she wants to be a stripper and does! Remember the infamous Super Bowl Halftime Show in which Justin Timberlake “accidentally” exposed Janet Jackson’s breast? That caused lots of pressure on the FCC to set restrictions and use higher “moral standards”. Before you start thinking I’m advocating nudity on sitcoms ask yourself this; do you know someone from the UK, ever dated a French person, or had a neighbor from Australia? Did you think these people were sex crazed lunatics? Did you rush your children inside the house the second they walked down the street, or alert the local schools that there were predators lurking nearby? Why not? These people have been exposed to nudity on television and in books since a very young age there must be something wrong with them, right? If you didn’t know this information about these other countries are you going to report them now? I ask again why not? Because, there is nothing wrong with these people. They live the same as everybody else. These countries produce lawyers, doctors, gas station attendants, murders, momma’s boys, and thieves just like all the rest. Just because you were raised a certain way doesn’t always make it the correct way, just as much as it doesn’t make it the wrong way either. Always question a line of thinking before automatically putting it in the bad column. You don’t think badly of a person doing something that is completely normal in their own culture, yet some people think horribly of a person doing something different within their own culture.

One more, if you don’t mind. You drive on which side of the road? Some countries have you driving on the right side of the road, others on the left. It all is left up to where you are in the world. When you grow up only knowing one way to do things, it’s really foreign to you to think about doing it any other way. But what happens when you travel? It’s a bit of a shock, to have your whole way of thinking turned all around. You’re extremely conscious of what you’re doing, you pay closer attention to everything happening around you, and you feel frustrated. You get behind the wheel of a car and you suddenly have a one track mind -- “Stay on the wrong side of the road”. Where am I going with this one, you ask? Well, being around something different is, for the lack of a better word, different. You may think it’s fun or interesting, or you may just hate it. If you experience the latter you may say things like “I’m never getting used to this, I hate it!” or “I’m going to sit in my hotel and just not be around it, you can keep your backwards cars”. If, however you are willing to forego the discontent of this new thing that has just turned your world upside down, the strangest thing will happened. You will get used to it. You may never fully love driving on the opposite side of the road but you will become ok with it. You might even learn to find good things about it, for instance maybe they let you make a left on red or you learned how to shift with your left hand and can show off to all your friends back home. The theory here is; just because you were suddenly exposed to something shocking and you feel like you can never get past it, with a little time and a willingness to learn and not hide from it, after a while you will be ok and not be able to remember why you were so angry in the first place. Plus as an added bonus you may learn something along the way!

What have we learned here? That we’re all really STRANGE! No, that’s not it. That what others may consider NORMAL may in fact be WEIRD to us (and vice versa). Maybe to look at the other side of the coin before you pass judgment. Something that may seem incredibly unheard of or unreal may be the way that people have to, or choose to, live their lives. Most importantly we have learned that nothing in life is every really cut and dry and as people we have to be more understanding of the choices and beliefs of others.
And now without further delay, my point;

Hello, my name is Jinxypie; I have sex on a regular basis with men that aren’t my husband. I am truly in love with my husband but I enjoy the sexual satisfaction of multiple men in varying numbers. My husband knows and encourages what I do and loves me for it. I teach others about this way of life through blogs, videos, and email correspondence. Oh and I also have a website in which I showcase what I do in the form of pornographic videos and images, and that’s just scratching the surface…

What do you think about that?

12 comments:

  1. To each his own and live and let live. We have a saying at work celibrating diversity.

    I don't know that my way of life is the one and only road to true happiness. I only wish everyone the best on their journey.

    Oh, and don't ever say that Jinxypie is a P*** Star...I will get in so much trouble...

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  2. Let me join in...=)

    Hi, I am Mary Ann I am a student of Jinxypie and a friend. I also have sex on a regular basis with men other than my husband. I am also fortunate in that my husband supports and encourages me in this lifestyle.

    I have seen some of Jinxypie's website and I personnally do not consider it pornographic. It is a very well done explicit celebration of humban sexuality. This is a view that is shared by my husband (if ne knows what's good for him...LOL).

    For those new readers that are considering a non-traditional lifestyle I would encourage you to read this blog, watch her videos, and write Jinxypie. She is a wonderful teacher and has done a lot to improve our marriage.

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  3. You do WHAT??? Drive on the wrong side of the road with other men while tanning and drinking beer...are you NUTS?
    Just kidding...
    Love your blog, keep up the great work.
    Jude

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  4. And I do it all while watching boobs on television. =)

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  5. At the end of the day there is no such thing as normal.

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  6. ilanc2005@walla.comMay 4, 2010 at 2:19 AM

    hi Jinxypie.............

    You seem a very intelligent and confident woman, that's the reason I let myself write to you the following directly and bluntly.
    Every heterosexual man who posses natural man qualities will tell you that he is territorial for his space & women and wants to procreate all the time. Yes, If I see a girl I'm dating messing around with another guy my natural instict would be to punch him in his faace. I won't necessarily do it due to legal reason (Or maybe I'll who knows...)but I'll definitely feel a strong urge to act that way. Those man characteristic r not due to the way I was raised by my parents, or the morals I was conditioned by my society/surrounding but r due to the genetic charge we as men carry from infancy.It's cross culture and primal (it's not like which side of the road I drive or even religion which was invented by the human race and is less ancients than those man "tendencies")
    Reading your posts regarding your sassy hubby I can't escape the conclusion that your husband given up the challenge to satisfy his women sexually. I'm pretty sure that deep down inside him he has a creeping sense that he's inferior/ unworthy to other male and can't deliver his role as a true man. Maybe he bacame addicted to disregard his urges as a man when he watches you with other guys I don't know.....
    I just know that if your husband truely in touch with his naural state sooner than later he will question himself realized that your lifestyle is really not healthy for him.
    That's my take on your lifestyle

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  7. ilANC2005 I can't disagree more. What defines a man as a true man is NOT strictly based on his ability to perform in bed. Yes my husband isn't the greatest stud around and I get my sexual pleasure from other more talented men.

    But there isn't another man alive who comes anywhere near my husband when it comes to being a real man in my eyes. My husband is there for me through thick and thin. With him I feel safe and secure, I have never had the slightest doubt that he will care and provide for me and my children. He will drop anything and come running when I need him, no matter how cranky or bitchy I get, when I am pukigng my guts out or when I look my worst...he is the one constant I can always depend on.

    I can't honestly say why my husband loves me as much as he does, but I know deep in my heart that with his love all things are possible and together we can overcome any challenge that comes our way.

    It is his love and constant support that makes it possible for me to be a cuckoldress. I know that my lovers will come and go. We have a lot of fun in bed, but without the love and support of my husband this would not be worth doing.

    That is what makes my husband the best man in the world.

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  8. I don't know how to edit a post...

    The second sentence was supposed to say:

    What defines a man as a true man is NOT strictly based on his ability to perform in bed.

    Sorry for the goof

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  9. Thank you for your comments and it is only because you have chosen to make an argument (albeit an argument is somewhat broken English) and direct but not overtly condescending comments that I have decided to respond. I will as such treat you with the same courtesy and I would ask that any other readers that chose to reply act accordingly.
    Before I begin to pick apart your comments I would like to say this; there are 12, only 12 animals ever found on the earth that mate for life they are as follows in no particular order: Old Faithful (a type of bird), Gibbons, Swans, Black Vultures, French Angelfish, Wolves, Albatrosses, Termites, Prairie Voles, Turtle Doves, Schistosoma Sansoni Worms, and Bald Eagles. Notice nowhere on this list did I mention humans. Know why? Because as much as every conservative, religious, or self proclaimed moral crusader wants to believe it, it just doesn’t happen. NEVER has, NEVER will. All guys, I mean all guys look at other women, some stray. All women look at other men, some stray as well. Most marriages are no longer set with the bride and groom losing their virginity on their wedding night. Most men and women are perfectly acceptable with the idea that their mate has been with another. As long as it hasn’t happened while the two of them has been together then no one cares. Why is this? You can get past the idea of another man having his hands all over the woman you care about and vise versa, as long as they haven’t been on her while she has been “dating” you. How is this different unless you think of the person as property? Anyway rant over and on to your comments.
    First, “Every heterosexual man who posses natural man qualities will tell you that he is territorial for his space & women and wants to procreate all the time”. As much as I believe you think this is true you aren’t every heterosexual male, nor can you speak for them. You may have the understanding of a handful of heterosexual males that you have decided to become friends with, but I would venture the guess that you chose to befriend them because in some way they thought the same way you did on any number of subjects. As it turns out they probably think the same way you do on this particular topic. That all being said. There are masses of men who aren’t by any definition in a cuckolding relationship that never experience a moment of jealousy for their wife or girlfriend. Even when these men are exposed to situations that should, by your point cause them to punch someone in the face.
    “It’s cross culture and primal (it’s not like which side of the road I drive or even religion which was invented by the human race and is less ancients than those man “tendencies”) Actually it isn’t, there are many polyamorous cultures in the world you may know nothing about because you were never exposed to them. Many cultures have what are defined as circular marriages where everyone is married to everyone else.
    You’re looking at this from a male point of view. You know nothing of my husband if you met him you would be amazed that it was him. In every part of his life outside our household he is the most commanding authority of a man. Most men, probably even men like those you speak of would gladly follow his direction without question. He is proud and stubborn; he can take control of any situation and make everything flow properly. He hasn’t given up on anything. It just doesn’t bother him that I want more. I am also in control here and you don’t seem to see that point.

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  10. I think another thing that gets lost in the shuffle here is that cuckolding is sexual. cucks, at least the ones who are in long-term happy and stable marriages, are having an intensely sexual and erotic union with their gloriously slutty wives. Cuckolding is a profoundly intimate couple's experience.

    Any good bull with half a brain realizes that the whole dynamic works because it's a three-way affair. Even if the bull is homophobic and doesn't ever see the cuck, he has to realize that the lady he just fucked may have cum on his giant cock in part because she has a real man in the background, waiting anxiously to serve and support her.

    It wouldn't be the hot thing that it is, without that kinky guy at home.

    Best,

    scott
    Mrs. Kelly's Playhouse

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  11. Honestly, what a load of patronising bullshit. OK, I get your point, but come on. Yes, some things to "us" seem foreign, and strange, and we should not judge. But we do, and we should! In Iran, if you look at pornography, they remove your eyes. I am in no doubt that this is wrong. In China, you have no voice, and if you speak up for your rights, you are thrown in jail. I am in no doubt that this is wrong. The Nazis believed in the annhialation of the Jews. Were they entitled to that belief? Should we respect what they did? Live and let live only goes so far, and one of the biggest moral high grounds people have is regarding the sanctity of marriage. What you/we do is fine. For us. In private, in our own way. But to put it up there as some big moral issue that people need educating on is wrong. I am in this life style, but not by design. Not many of us are. We stumble across it, and explore it in our own way. By "normalising" it, your downgrading what marriage is supposed to be, when we walk up the aisle with the best of intentions. I actually think that by your "education" to those who think you abnormal, you are imposing what you think on them. Comitting your own sin. I'm a cuckold. My wife sleeps with other men. Am I about to annopunce it to the world in the hope of understanding and acceptence? Nope. I require neither, expect neither. And honestly, its no ones business but ours.

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