Fetish Month blog 2 - Domination.

Domination has its place within a cuckolding relationship.  As a Cuckoldress, I am expected to have a dominating side, even if it’s something that didn’t happen with me naturally.  Not saying it hasn’t evolved as I have come out of my shell, but it wasn’t very prominent in the beginning.  But I think the misconception is, people believe a Cuckoldress to be dominant all the time, with everyone.  I don’t feel comfortable exerting a dominating attitude with everyone I meet.  I generally reserve that type of attitude for my husband. 

Many of the people into being dominated are, in fact, dominant in their everyday life.  They are professionals with high stress jobs in which they have to be in control.  What better way to let loose and be carefree than to lose all control of what’s happening?  If you submit yourself to your Mistress, she calls the shots.  She can order you around and force you to do things not because you have no direction in life, but because you don’t want to be in control at that point in time.  It’s your way to release.    A cuck takes it one step further.  Instead of just losing control of the situation they lose control of their ability to have sex with their woman.  Their lady doesn’t have to be faithful; it’s her choice to take on additional lovers. 

Most cucks may also be looking for a twinge of female domination in their relationship, they feel the need to have a powerful, controlling woman telling them what to do.  They don’t want to be in control.  It does play out in a bit of a Dominant / submissive way, with the Cuckoldress of course having the control.  Their Goddess should direct them, let the cuck know her wishes and desires, and he is to make it happen without question. It’s what she wants, so he’d better do it himself or find someone that can get the job done to her specifications!  By making sure all her wishes have come true or she never has to lift a finger in the house, she is likely to be pleased with her cuck and she can continue to be in Cuckoldress mode, either ordering him around or finding lovers to see.

Another way that cuckolding relates to domination is in the terminology.  Many times I capitalize the beginning C in Cuckoldress, but I don’t normally capitalize cuck.  Same with Goddess or Mistress, somehow by capitalizing that one letter when referring to the woman, you’re showing that she is the one in charge, she has more power.  The terms also seem to portray a worshipping or admiration for the lady.  I wouldn’t normally want to be referred to as Goddess!  But in my Cuckoldress role, it is quite flattering. 

There are other avenues of domination and ways to incorporate other fetishes into your cuckolding relationship.  Many cucks are into chastity, foot worship, or financial domination, amongst other things.  It goes back to not having any control of what’s happening, they are forced into chastity (or they go willingly because their woman requests it), or they’re being told to hand over their paycheck.  It’s a thrill for them and quite arousing. 

I am the type of person that has embraced her dominance.  Like I said, I don’t throw that attitude out with everyone, but those that have known me for a long time can see a difference in relation to how I used to be.  I am much more confident and I speak my mind now, I don’t put up with ignorant “crap”.  If I’m unhappy I will most certainly say so, even if it takes me a bit to come up with the exact words I want to say.  I tell people what I want and I expect it to happen.  (I’m not unreasonable or outlandish – usually – with my requests.)  But as far as my sexuality goes, I call the shots.  If I don’t feel like seeing anyone because I’m too tired from working, you can bet I’m going to lie around in my pajamas all evening.  If I’m so horny I can’t stand it, I’ll be calling my short list guys to see if they can meet up, and if that doesn’t pan out I’ll grab my favorite toy and take care of business.  I am in charge when it comes to sex.  Any guy that has tried to get with me can tell you, he’s on MY timetable; he has to play by MY rules.  I don’t like not having control of those situations, I’m always in charge.  My dominance doesn’t only cover my relationship with my husband, but I’m willing to bet most men will admit their wives control the household and family.  In our family I don’t outwardly “overrule” anything and everything my husband says, we usually have similar views or thoughts on things and if we differ or disagree, we talk about it.  I won’t always play the “do as I say” card.  I am willing to listen.  ;) 

With all that being said, keep in mind that not ALL cucks wish to be dominated.  They are perfectly content with their Cuckoldress taking charge of her sexuality and sex life, but they don’t feel the need to lose control of themselves.  Many Cuckoldresses still take care of the house, and even have regular daytime jobs.  Nothing changes except she is sexually active with multiple partners.  Domination isn’t for everyone, but sometimes playing with the fetish can help enhance your relationship and help you to open your mind to new experiences.