Another Year Has Passed.

It’s the end of 2010. Another year of your life has gone by, so why not take a moment to reflect on what has been the past 365 days?

First think about the good things. The memories you have shared, the friends you’ve made, and the great times you have had. Think about all the things you have learned, how you have become a different person without even noticing, and the new foods that you lived your entire life and never knew you liked until mid-summer. Remember all the dreams you had, and all of your accomplishments? Even the little ones, they count too!

Now think about the sad things. The friends you have lost, the setbacks you have encountered, the people you have let down, and the bridges you’ve burned. Recall the moments you let pass without standing up for what you believe in, the times you have stood idly by and not righted a wrong, and the promises you have broken. Even the little ones…

Last, let’s remember the hard truths. The things you meant to do but never had the time for, the people you meant call but never did, the friends you meant to see but never saw, and the hearts you broke. Think back on all the words you said but didn’t mean, the mistakes you made, and the lies you told.

No matter how hard or easy this year was, regardless of how it could have been made better or worse, remember this one last thing. It ends, TONIGHT. Tomorrow is the start of a new year, a brand new day. Learn from your mistakes, be who YOU want to be and not who others want you to be. Spend time with those you care about, even if it means you put important things aside for a few hours. Try some new things! Perhaps 2011 is the year you learn to salsa dance, or you dabble with domination… maybe it’s the year you finally say enough is enough and quit that job that’s weighing you down. What if it’s the year you find love? Try to remain open to new possibilities, you never know what’s coming into your life but if you’re closing yourself off from it you’ll miss out before you even get the chance to like it.

The past is the past, we can’t change it. No reason to dwell on it! Let’s look forward to the coming year and jump right in with both feet!

Happy New Year, everyone!

A Mostly Lady-Blog, Stuck in a Rut!

Hey, honey, it’s Friday night! Which restaurant would you like to go to?
Oh, I don’t care. I’m kind of tired anyway. Let’s do the usual.
Ok.

It’s so easy to get into a routine and not want to change. It’s also incredibly easy to get into a rut (sexually speaking) and not want to try to spice things up. I’m personally guilty of this one… although sometimes I can chalk it up to my being lazy more than anything else. ;)

Hey, it’s Friday night! Do you have plans to go out?
Nah, not really. No one asked, and I’m kind of tired. I’m just going to stay at home and watch tv.
Oh, ok.

Ladies, some of us have a select few guys – or even one guy – that we prefer to have our cuckolding fun with. Seeing the same men over and over isn’t a bad thing, it builds relationships and trust. You feel more comfortable in those situations. While comfort is craved, too much causes things to get predictable and routine. Why not throw a new guy in the mix every now and again? New is exciting! Most of us will say it’s too hard to find someone, especially if it’s a short notice situation.

Speaking from personal experience, if I have someone cancel, I like to use the we have so much work to catch up on excuse. Yes, I said it – excuse. Usually a legitimate reason to keep things as they are and not try something different. I’ve found out that it’s really easy to make plans if you try a little. Start texting/emailing or even calling and you may be surprised at what you can get into!

What if, instead of being bummed about my guy cancelling, I started calling, emailing, or texting to see if any of my guys are available? Or go on the prowl for a new guy! Use that free time to search the web for someone interesting to chat with, or go out to a bar/club to see who’s hanging around looking for the right woman to have a little fun with. Chances are, there could be a free drink or two for your efforts!

YES, it takes a little (sometimes a lot of) effort on our parts to get ready to go out, or grab the laptop to get the ball rolling again. But in all honesty, don’t you love the thrill of getting to know someone new? Or using your girly charms to charm the guy staring at you from across the room? I know I do, I see that as a great perk of this lifestyle… meeting new people and having that “excitement” over and over again.

Sometimes we get caught up in our everyday lives and let our cuckolding plans fall by the wayside. Again, very legitimate reasons for this, we have to put our families first. But during those times it’s so easy to basically take a break from this lifestyle, to just cancel all plans with guys and show no interest in cuckolding. What message does that send to our cuck? In our minds, it says Family first! but to him, it could be saying I don’t want to cuckold anymore and I’m too scared to tell you, and I’m using this as a way to get out of it. Completely different sides to that story, huh? If you feel the need for a break, talk to your cuck about it. Tell him how you’re feeling overwhelmed or run-down from everything in your life, and I’m certain he will offer to help you out in any way that he can. Our cucks are willing to make sacrifices for our well-being and happiness; haven’t met a cuck yet that has said something different. Our satisfaction gives them pleasure.

It’s very easy to get into a rut and not want to work to get out of it. I believe that for the health and happiness of the cuckolding relationship, you may want to try to make some kind of effort to keep things fresh and exciting. Doesn’t necessarily have to be a new guy, it could be something as simple as a new fantasy to talk about. More often than not, it’s worth it! And in instances where it wasn’t, you probably came out of the experience with a great or amusing story.

Under Pressure

It’s amazing how much pressure we put ourselves under. Sure, work has us under pressure at times with looming deadlines or a demanding boss, but I’m referring to the pressure we put on ourselves for no good reason. We want to be the best at what we do… great. That’s a good kind of pressure if your goals are realistic. More often than not, we tend to set some goals sky-high that are extremely difficult to achieve. (On a separate note, those of you that now have Queen stuck in your head after reading the title are the cool ones.)

How many times have you come across a cuckolding story or video on the internet and thought to yourself Gee, we aren’t doing all of that, and we started a month ago (six months ago, a year ago, three years ago, whatever). Maybe we’re not doing it right? Oh no! We’re not a true cuckolding couple! We need to live up to their standards!

There are many websites and a whole lot of fiction out there that like to portray fantasy as real life. Not every woman has the desire to be with black, enormously endowed men. Not every cuck likes to be humiliated or told how pathetic or what a loser he is. Most importantly, not every person on the internet is who they claim to be nor have they had the experiences that they swear to have had!

You have to realize that it is 100%, perfectly FINE to be a NOVICE when it comes to cuckolding. Don’t let any blog, video, website, or even me make you feel like you’re doing it wrong or that you’re not up to par in the cuckolding lifestyle. You aren’t going to start off at expert levels, and if you’re only dabbling in cuckolding every now and again, it could take longer than a full-time cuckolding couple to reach those kinds of comforts. Cucks shouldn’t start off thinking a bull will let him fluff just like a Cuckoldress shouldn’t go into this thinking her cuck will enjoy a creampie if he’s never done it before.

But why isn’t she jumping on the chance to see men all the time, every woman would love to have a sex life this open!?… I want to see men in my own marital bed but I think that would hurt his feelings; going out to have sex at a hotel just makes me feel cheap and I don’t like it.

It’s OK to go at a rapid pace or a snail’s pace if you need to. The key is to make sure that both parties are enjoying this. You don’t think she’s going fast enough? Ask her (nicely) why she’s taking it so slow. Perhaps she’s unsure of how you’re really taking it because you two don’t talk about it enough? And ladies, if he is trying to rush you into the next step, maybe you should realistically think about why you’re crawling to the next phase… I mean sure, sometimes they want us to jump right in bed with another guy the second we’ve finished with the first! But if reality says it’s been a while and you just aren’t interested, maybe a good long discussion is in order or maybe you just keep it slow! It really doesn’t matter to anyone but the two of you. Seriously talk about the speed in which you’d like things to go. Only want to see one guy a month? Just keep everyone up to speed. Every couple disagrees on how to do things from time to time, cuckolding is no different. Think that you should have a guy three nights a week, but your cuck thinks that’s too much? Talk about it, find out the reasons why you guys feel that way. Communicate, people!

Stop trying to live up to the hype and fantasies of people on the internet or in story books. They don’t know your relationship or understand your life, and every person – couple – relationship is NOT the same. I know I say it a lot, but I want everyone to really get it. CUCKOLDING is what YOU make of it!

Just a Reminder!

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I *heart* Forums.

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Another Jinxy and hub co-blog.

One of my favorite YouTuber’s, sxephil (who has new episodes weekly, Monday through Thursday), talked about something this week that really got me thinking. Dangerous, I know! Every year a certain college releases a study on cultural “touchstones” that effect college students in their lifetime. The students entering college this year were born in 1992! Few of them know how to write in cursive, food has always been irradiated, and it seems that the Post Office has always been going broke.

I bet you’re wondering, so how does all that relate to the usual topics of this blog? It sparked a discussion with hubby on how these young whippersnappers think. How they aren’t as hindered by the way their parents think and feel. They don’t use their parents past to pave an exact path for their future. I have always thought a little differently than the rest of my family, even if I wasn’t as verbally expressive about it as I think I should have been. Growing up in the Bible Belt, you’re expected to think and feel a certain way. Growing up in the South means you are redneck and intolerant of interracial relationships and even homosexuality.

The world is constantly changing, as is the way that people think. It seems that the “younger generation” is much more open in their ways of thinking than their parents and the generations prior to them. They aren’t as quick to condemn someone for being a little different. Because of their openness and willingness to explore things different from them, some of the “older generations” are starting to adopt that line of thinking and not be too quick to judge. Some of the lifestyle choices that were frowned upon not even 20 years ago are so widely accepted now, no one gives them a second thought. I saw a bumper sticker the other day that said "A mind is like a parachute. It doesn't work if it isn't open". Bumper sticker wisdom aside, it's still true and more and more people are open minded not because they were taught to be, it's just they never thought about being anything else.

I know I talk a lot about open mindedness but I think it's an issue that can use as much publicity as possible. The world is so full of intolerance towards things that really don't matter that much. Look at prop 8, Homosexuals wanted the right to get married, to be able to show their love for one another in a bond, get insurance breaks, have the next of kin they picked, enjoy a ceremony that probably costs way too much, get joint checking accounts, and for that matter make sure they get half on the off-chance the other person runs away with the UPS guy/girl. They weren't asking for the right to go to your kid’s high school and attempt to convert them. The point is, what doesn't hurt you – well, doesn't hurt you. Everything happens a lot slower than you realize while you’re living it, but when you look back it really didn't take that long. We have a black President. You can say almost anything short of the word "fuck" on television, and for that matter there’s almost any form of undress short of actual nudity. In most places interracial couples go about their business and no one cares or gives them a second look. That's not to say that the world doesn't have its share of prudes; there are still those so offended by nudity they feel they should impose their views on everyone because their way of thinking is the only right way. This is how it will always be; it's their right to have those views. That doesn't mean the rest of us should give up on how we feel.

Marriages are different now as well. You rarely heard of swingers when I was growing up, and when you did it was in a negative light. Now, I know quite a few of them, even ones I didn’t suspect were kinky! These days younger couples are more experienced with their sexuality and men and women alike are more open to try to push the limit of their sexual comfort zones, whether it be swinging, threesomes, cuckolding, role playing, and even homoeroticism. What can we all learn from this generation? (A generation that I should add is still producing lawyers, doctors, nurses, accountants, politicians, solders, business men and women, teachers, etc.) Just because these people have a different view on sex doesn't mean their morals are corrupt or that they don't have the ability to lead a company, or help others in need.

Sexuality has been a touchy subject for thousands of years; horny women were thought to be hysterical in Victorian times. During these times women cuckolded their husbands with their doctors, who would provide them with "medically" induced orgasms to "treat" them. Why did they? The same reason women still do today, because their husbands were either always busy, they weren't able to satisfy them, or they wanted a little variety without the guilt.

So let's all do something, I know I don't usually ask for reader response and I am curious as to how much I will actually get. I know I have lots of readers that aren't necessarily into the cuckolding world, but are into some type of kink or fascinated with their sexual limits.

How is your life better or just different since you made the decision to let go of your sexual inhibitions? If you would please let me know your age range (in groups of 18-25, 26-25, 35-50, or 50 plus), your gender, and a little about yourself and your sexual lifestyle.

Brains = the most powerful tool...

I’ve had the pleasure of speaking to some of you fine folks over the phone in the past month and a half.  I appreciate each and every phone call!  People make comments about how “factual” I am or how “sharp” I sound, and all of that makes me feel so good, but what people don’t seem to realize is that I see each of these phone calls as a learning opportunity.  I can learn about the relationships of others that are either interested in or have been actively in cuckolding relationships, and see how those differ from my own experiences.  Taking these calls is a very bright spot in my day!  And even though I ask for ratings and feedback, more than half the callers don’t do such, even though it’d boost my ratings a bit and make me look more credible on paper. (haha)

Anyway, I’ve had a couple callers asking about my sex life with my husband.  Hey, if I’m an open book just about everywhere else, why would I censor myself on the phone?  Something they seem to be extremely curious about is, do I still enjoy sex with him?  To which I reply, we have our own way of doing things and while it may not always be penetrative sex, it’s still sex to us.  But that doesn’t mean he’s never inside of me, or that those times he happens to be in me that I hate every second.  Quite the opposite, actually.  Let me explain…

Sex feels good on a physical level.  Different partners create different feelings, right?  Due to size, technique, whatever.  So how do you still enjoy sex with a partner that’s not as large as the others?  You can mentally take yourself to higher levels.  Oh yes, my friends, I’m a firm believer that an orgasm can be just as much a mental thing as a physical thing.  I’m not alone in this belief, either. 

After talking to many different guys about this theory, I did some actual research on the web.  What I found was quite interesting, many of the articles or websites claiming to deal with this fact are truly only trying to help males bring their female partners to orgasm through physical stimulation.  Nothing wrong with that, mind you!  The more a guy knows, the better he’ll be at this. But there was one article that stands out, one that is dealing with the theory of orgasms being a mental thing, not just physical. 

It has come to public knowledge that there are some women out there that can either voluntarily or involuntarily bring themselves to orgasm just by thinking. There is a study being done by a Dr. Komisaruk, author of The Orgasm Answer Guide.  This doctor is using MRIs to study brain activity during a female’s orgasm.  I find it quite fascinating!  Especially since preliminary results are that women that can bring themselves to orgasm from mental stimulation show the same brain activities as those that are being physically stimulated to achieve orgasm.  Pretty cool, huh? 

 I’ve personally found these mental orgasms to be quite intense, much moreso than physically-driven ones.  You talk with your partner about fantasies, about what you’ve been feeling, and you can just close your eyes and be there mentally.  Your breath becomes quicker, heart rate increases… and before you know it, you’ve brought yourself (yes, with the assistance of your partner) to that happy orgasmic place.  Hub’s getting pretty good at helping me get there mentally.  Why would I turn down an opportunity to feel good? ;)

That being said, it is very possible for me to enjoy sex with my husband and his smaller-than-average endowment.  So why do I continue to cuckold him?  Well, it’s not solely about sex.  Don’t get me wrong, that’s a big part of it, the physical acts of sex are much quicker than becoming aroused through mental stimulation.  It’s about differences in partners and experiences.  Not many guys will do things in a similar manner… they have different personalities, sexual demeanor, and of course sizes.  But this is also about control and power.  Being a Cuckoldress puts the woman in charge of certain aspects of the relationship, a power she may have never realized she could have over her man.  It’s about fantasies being fulfilled.  The cuck dreams about watching his lady with another man… the Cuckoldress may dream about multiple partners at a time, or one partner in particular, or being in exotic locations… who knows?  Fantasies are fun to talk about and to play out.  This is also about freedom!  As a Cuckoldress, I am free to have the type of sexual lifestyle that many women dream of, and that many men want their wives or girlfriends to have.  I get to be as choosy as I want, picking partners that meet my standards.  Or if I just want to sit back and snuggle with my hubby, I have every freedom to do such.

Back to the topic at hand, I have one last statement regarding mental orgasms.   Ladies:  If you’ve never had one, you should really try it. Might be the best one you’ve had that didn’t require another individual! ;)

Rockin' and Rollin' and whatnot...

Hey guys. How’s it going?

Wait, this doesn’t seem like a typical Jinxy blog! You’re probably saying to yourself… and you’re right.  I just wanted to take a second and talk to you all.  While these blogs are informative and discussing things that are on my mind, sometimes they feel impersonal.  More “teaching and discussion” and less “what’s going on in my life”.  It’s time to throw one of those in the mix.

I’m sure you can tell from the obvious slow-down in updates I’m having a really busy summer.  Not filled with exotic vacations or a hoppin’ social schedule.  Just trying to work hard and keep things low-key around here.  We have big plans for the next few months and I want to do everything I can to ensure it will be successful.  It’s something we’ve wanted for a long time, and we’re so close to making it reality.  Nothing will get in the way!!!  I also reconnected with an old friend this summer.  Kind of funny, actually, we’ve been living in the same town for 2+ years and just found each other again last week.  I get a little teary when I think about how close we used to be (best friends from 4th  grade through high school, and for a while after) and then we just dropped out of each other’s lives.  She accepts and understands who I am, and she’s happy that I’m so happy with my life.  THAT is the type of friend we need in our lives.

It hasn’t all been chocolates and roses though.  There have been family members with health issues or conditions that need(ed) addressing.  There’s the balancing act of keeping everyone happy while at the same time making sure everything is properly taken care of.  And then there’s the laundry! But that’s part of life (the downside, not necessarily the laundry)… we deal with the good and the bad simultaneously.  We can’t pick and choose – well, unless we’re in some sort of denial about our lives. 

I believe I lead a pretty awesome life.  I’m very lucky to be where I am, and even more lucky to have the best husband in the world that I love to pieces.  I have some amazing friends that’d drop everything to help me out (lookin’ at you, KC!).  I am very lucky.

Enough babble from me.  REAL interesting blog coming next week. ;)

Toodles!

Do I make you horny? Or just uncomfortable?

Why do we tend to destroy things we can’t comprehend?  Is it fear?  Ignorance?  Because we don’t understand something, it’s perfectly acceptable to some folks to condemn and hate what’s different, or what doesn’t necessarily live up to their standards. A lot of time people do it without even thinking - its an automatic responce. Even those who are open minded can react, then look back and see their mistakes in judgment. I do this and so does most everyone else at some point or another.

We have the ‘fight or flight’ instinct.  When you hear that term, you generally think about scary or life-threatening situations, you don’t think about it in simple everyday life.  You come across a video of a cute girl, talking about something you have never heard of but you are curious to learn the meaning of.  You hit “Play” and – what IS this stuff?? Has she LOST her MIND?!? What about her husband?? You mean he’s compliant with this debauchery!??  No, no, no, NO!  This is WRONG!  It goes against everything I’ve been taught about how life is supposed to work!  Now the key moment… do you navigate away from the page?  OR, do you decide to defend your stance on the subject (even though your opinion wasn't necessary)?  Because by saying nothing, you feel that you’re condoning these actions…?

Sure… that may be a bit extreme, but it happens almost every day.  Not just in my life, either.  I get “attacked” or berated  all the time because people think what I do is wrong.  Almost every word rolls off my back, I don’t buy in to their negativity.  :)  I do get lots of messages from people asking why I put up with this, and why is everyone coming after me. I don't see it that way most of the time, unless it's just blantant threats or attacks. Most of the time I am pretty easy going. I know that this is reality and in it some people just have problems with others. It can be something they were taught or just came into but I try not to judge them back as they most likely have a reason for being this way. 

My point is, people are really quick to get offended or upset at ideas or situations they don’t understand.  Things they have no control over, something that doesn’t involve them a bit - yet they feel the need to speak up on the situation.  If it’s something they don’t agree with they feel the need to lash out.  For some it is hard to accept the fact that not everyone lives the same lifestyle or has the same likes and dislikes.  Would you shun someone for preferring dogs as pets over cats?  What if they chose to cut their hair really short or dye it a bright pink?  Perhaps one  would like to become a vegetarian! Would it matter to anyone?  Of course not, those are personal choices.  A persons choice to do something has no real effect on you…  Right? 

So in trying to better understand, I ask why do people get so upset by the fact that I am a Cuckoldress?  It is because we’re talking about something sexual? Does the taboo nature of particluar fetishes cause people to want to speak out more? They feel this is more important than what type of hairstyle I prefer?

Sometimes I can see why the cuckolding community is so small, or comprised of many that are only living out fantasies.  If you’re real about what you choose to do in your sexual life you risk ridicule.  Resentment. Confusion. It’s easier to live in a fantasy world than to put yourself out there “in real life” and get hurt. 

Why would would you put yourself or your spouse on the line?  I know that when I started to learn about this lifestyle, I was concerned.  It seems that out of everything I would read (Wiki articles, message boards, and one blog in particular), most of it was fantasy.  Only ONE piece of REAL information, real life accounts of this lifestyle, came from the blog.  After a lot of thought, and realizing that my cuckolding experiences wouldn’t be just like everyone else’s, I chose to start a blog of my own.  Not telling people how to live their life, or how to live my lifestyle, but basically just telling our story.  Where we come from, what we want to do… we’re just two people in this world, telling our tales.  There is so very LITTLE helpful information out there on cuckolding, and if I could give some random person a little clarity, what’s the harm?  Turns out, this blog is gaining popularity.  People come here to get some real information on cuckolding, or other opinions on the lifestyle they’re interested in.  Cuckolding itself is also gaining popularity, and having a few reliable resources out there to lean on is a much needed reality.

A guide for hotwives - some general advice from Jinxypie

“Where can I meet a hotwife like you?” “ How do I know if a lady is approachable?” “ How can I let guys know I’m open for flirting and more?”   I hear questions like this all the time, from both men looking for a hotwife and from the ladies trying to get “out there” and find her bulls. 

Something many people in the “know” of the cuckolding lifestyle will look for is, simply, an anklet on the woman’s right ankle.  This is supposed to signify that a woman is open to being approached about sexual encounters.  Something I have to stress to people is, anklets are a fairly popular jewelry choice in recent times.  One shouldn’t judge a  woman to be a hotwife on anklet alone!  Many women wear them because they’re pretty, not because they are even aware of what a hotwife is.  Men need to look for other clues and cues before proceeding.

What else can you do to signal to guys that you are looking for a fun time?  Confidence.  Flirty attitude.  Eye contact.  Body language.  MANY things can signal that you’re fun and open to new encounters.  I personally believe that eye contact and body language are the major ones, followed by confidence and being flirty.  If you’re out – either alone or with a group of friends – at a bar or club, you don’t want to be standing against the wall sipping a drink and hiding your face from everyone.  Guys generally don’t pick those ladies to chat with because it seems she doesn’t want to be there anyway.  If you do happen to be standing against the wall, why not sway with the music?  Look around and smile at the guys?  Don’t cross your arms, but dance a little bit?  Or walk around the room making eye contact and saying hello.  You never know what guy will stop you and start a great conversation.  Many of us think we lack the confidence or ability to flirt, but there’s always the old saying “fake it until you make it”… be in character, pretend you’re the hottest woman in the room!  ;) 

That all sounds like general advice, and it practically is.  But you’d be surprised how many hotwives or cuckoldresses don’t really understand how to work the bar or club scene!  We find our men in the most random places, or online, because it’s easier to have men coming to us than it is to have to put ourselves out there and face rejection.  If we keep putting ourselves in the same types of situations, we’re bound to find the same types of men.  (Same for you guys, if you keep looking for women in the same places, how do you expect to find a different type of woman?)  It’s best to put yourself out there in other ways, go to bars or clubs occasionally, or try a new dating website.  You never know what types of people you can come across until you make yourself available to them in that manner.

Ladies, if you’ve been on dating websites for any length of time you’ll find out that there are a TON of men that are all talk and no action.  There are men in real life that are the same way… big talkers, but that’s about it.  When it comes to getting with a woman they’re clueless.  How do you spot them and distinguish between the fakers and the real genuine guys?  From my experience, the fakers tend to be the quickest to claim they have “exactly what you’re looking for” or “the biggest and the best”.  I’ve heard a lot of “Come on over here baby, let me give you what I’ve got!  You won’t need to look anywhere else.”  They’re also the ones that don’t want to commit to an actual date or time to meet up.  Then you have guys that will commit to a date, only to reschedule on you three or four times.  Usually with me, they get three strikes.  Not only when it comes to rescheduling, I factor in EVERYTHING.  Did they send the info or pictures I asked for? Are they decent at replying to my emails thoroughly? And yes, I even evaluate on grammar at times.  Oddly enough, the guys that start off sensibly with their name (real or fake, you never know) and telling you a little about themselves tend to be the guys that are more serious, more genuine.  Sure, it may not always work out with them, but at least you can both go your separate ways knowing there are others dealing with the same struggles as yourself. 

I know that a lot of this suggests pushing people outside of their comfort zones, and I would never recommend pushing yourself so far past your limits that you’re upset or scared or possibly can’t come back from.  Testing the lines, your self-imposed limits can be fun, especially if you know ahead of time exactly what you’d like to experience.  Ever told yourself you don’t want to be with a person more than 10 years older than you?  What happens when the hot guy you’re chatting up happens to be 12 years your senior?  Would you completely blow it off because he passed that imaginary line you drew?  Doubtful… you’d probably still pursue it.  But if the guy was 22 years older than you?  That may be when you’d enforce your own rules.   Or if you tell yourself you won’t be having sex with a group of people, but you end up getting cozy with 2 folks at the same time… would you stop? Or would you go forward with the threesome?  That’s up to you, your comfort levels, and the rules you want to enforce.  Just know what your limits are, what you absolutely will draw the line at.  If necessary, discuss those lines and limits with any friends or partners so they can help you to stay true to them.  Don’t ever go further than you’re willing to. 

Ladies, if you’re trying to find more partners and make yourself more approachable as a hotwife, you may want to consider getting an anklet to wear!  Then of course, being more flirty and confident as you are in situations around guys you may desire.  Know what to look for in terms of being ‘all talk’ and know what you’re not willing to go through just for a fun encounter.   It’s all about YOUR fun, after all!

My new project

For months now, I’ve told you all that I was working on an informational site related to cuckolding.  AskJinxy.com is a division of that, I guess you could say.  This is basically everything that I’m touching (in both the literal and metaphorical sense).  More will be added to this as time goes on, like a “FAQ” section (in blog style) updated with questions sent in to me, and actual explanations of cuckolding for male and female viewers.  Things have continued to grow over here, so I’m only able to allot so much time per week to these projects. 



Do you like the intro to the site?  I’m a big fan of it. We had to do that picture a couple different times, just to get it right.  We’re perfectionists like that… A couple of things I wanted to point out, there is a way to contact me through AskJinxy.com just as there is through any of my sites.  Instead of being called Contact, we actually called the page “Ask”… fitting, right?  =)  You can find links to call me here, or use the expedited or regular contact form for your questions or comments.  You will also find a Reviews section here.  Right now, there is a review for a device called the Advanced Clitoral Pump.  Interesting product!  I plan on putting website reviews here as well, not just sex toy reviews.  Do you have a suggestion for a site I could review?

Probably the biggest draw to the site is the events page.  Wonder what I’m up to?  Where I’m going or what events I’m taking part in, either as participant or spectator?  Then this is the place to look.  Right now, there are two events listed.  I’ve joined forces with Just For Pleasure, an adult store in the Charlotte, NC area, and we’re taking cues from the customers.  Many times over, people ask how to spice up their sex life… what can they do to make their sex more exciting?  Or, they have many questions and curiosities about oral sex – how can I make sure I’m doing it right?  I’m scared to try it, how can I get started easily?  Those are the first two classes that will be presented.   One is coming up 28 July, and the other will be scheduled at a later time.  The classes aren’t related to cuckolding, they are for anyone, so don’t think that we’ll ONLY be talking about cuckolding topics.  The goal is to help couples, or individuals, open up and get comfortable talking about sex and sexuality.  What better place than in an adult novelty store! ;)

Since launching AskJinxy.com, I have been checking the analytics every day, hoping I can reach people from near and far.  Since we’re doing events in North Carolina, I have hoped for more traffic from my fair state… alas, it’s just not happening yet.  Give it time, right? =)

The end of fetish month - Denial and Chastity

(Yes, I know this is late... cut me some slack!)

Imagine, having the most insane amount of horniness, and not being able to get off.  Sounds horrible, right?  I know for me, I can’t stand much teasing and foreplay before I just want to get right to it!  But for some people, being denied and forced into an aroused state is much more exciting than actual acts of sex or even orgasm. 

Denial comes in many forms, but is basically grouped in a “short term” or “long term” category.   Most of the popular fetishes are related to short term denial.  Long term denial can supposedly have a term limit of “indefinite” but people who go that route usually incorporate prostate milking into their activities.  Many folks choose to play with short term denial (and that term is relative to the person – 3 weeks may seem like an eternity to some but may be incredibly short to others), due to the fact that prostate milking takes practice and is sometimes a lengthy process. Some people would rather not fool with it, so they just let their cuck out weekly or every few weeks so he can masturbate, then get back in his chastity.  Personally, I love playing with this fetish.  It’s a total feeling of control and power when you can tell your cuck is aching for release and you can deny him, or let him have his orgasm.  The cuck feels an overwhelming sense of submissiveness at that point, because he practically had to beg for what he wanted.  He isn’t going to dare to do this on his own, he will be given permission from his beautiful lady first.  In getting what he wants, he may have the feelings of dread, wondering when she’ll be giving enough to let him cum again…

In cuckolding, many cucks are denied just on principle.  After all, their woman is having sex with other men, so she’s not keeping her pussy only for him.  Why would they be allowed access to the same things they had in a “standard” relationship?  The WOMAN is in charge, little cucky can do as he’s told and only hope to catch a glimpse of his lady in the nude!  Not being able to see his wife or girlfriend naked, or obviously not being allowed to have penetrative sex with her happen to be two popular forms of denial, that I personally use.  It’s such a fun game to Cuckoldresses, we can tease and taunt our cucks with just the hint of skin, or lay in bed stark naked and have hubby or boyfriend know he can only wish to be inside of you!  If hands start to roam we can always threaten to put some clothes on (ha!).  But above all else, I believe the most popular type of denial all-around is chastity.

There are so many different types of chastity belts and devices on the market.  Before buying one, some real research needs to be done.  We have purchased a few different kinds, but none of them are very good at keeping him locked up.  Most end up being too large or not made to be tight enough, and he can slip out.  Frustrating, but sometimes you have to try and fail to know what works.  I always read reviews and try to find people that have used the same products so I can get honest feedback on those types of items.  Of those we did try, one was an actual leather belt type that I absolutely did not like, but the rest were the CB types… CB-3000 I think?  Still, not enough to keep him locked away, he could get out of the back of it.  We had talked about buying the points of intrigue (I believe they are called) to prevent this, but that just kind of fell to the wayside.  Maybe we’ll play around with chastity again in the future. ;)

If a guy is locked in chastity, then he’s (obviously) unable to masturbate.  In many cases, they’re also unable to get very hard due to the device they’re wearing.  How humiliating must that be?  So aroused but scared to get very excited because of the pain they expect to feel if they do.  Makes you feel like less of a man, right?  What if your lady makes you wear the device 24 hours a day, 7 days a week?  You’re NEVER allowed a second for release!  What if you needed to go see your doctor and she forgot to unlock you?  What if you were ‘figured out’ at work?  How exciting and scary would that be?    

Men also really enjoy having the ability to get off at a moment’s notice.  Taking that away from them by putting them in chastity is quite the dominant act.  They get it in their heads the idea of pleasing their lady in hopes she’ll show mercy and unlock the chastity long enough for them to take care of business.  They become quite submissive at that point!  Think you have him wrapped around your finger now?  Ladies, you have no idea the things he’d be willing to do!  Wear lingerie – clean the house – watch the children so you can have a night out of the house – buy you that cute outfit you’ve had your eye on AND the matching shoes and purse.  Now, I’m not saying that to degrade men or to tell ladies ‘here’s the secret of getting what you want!’… this is more of a realization.  You find something they want worse than air.  Take it away.  The possibilities are near endless of what he’d be willing to do for just 20 seconds of touching his cock.  I know my husband has done many things, just to get the chance to masturbate, and sometimes so I would talk to him while he jerks off.  Sometimes getting caught up in fantasy land (mental images) is much hotter than anything we could go through in actuality.  I’m not the only woman that’s experienced the benefits – I’ve had quite a few ladies email with their stories.  Many (if not all) of them would honestly admit to never realizing how much fun they could have by denying their man of their body, or HIS body. 

Chastity isn’t just for cuckolding couples.  I’ve spoken to a few different men about their desire to be put in chastity, with different responses from each guy.  One guy is voluntarily locked up because his wife wants to make sure he never develops a masturbation problem.  No plans to enter the cuckolding lifestyle, this is all about calming her fears and for him, enjoying the time in chastity.  Very noble of him, I think.  Another husband plans to introduce his woman to the idea of cuckolding by first introducing her to chastity.  Once she gets used to the idea of having her pleasure (through toys, etc) while he has none, she may be more open to the idea of cuckolding.  I think this is a very smart way to play it, helping her to wrap her head around the thoughts of being with others while her hubby gets none.  See?  Chastity isn’t only for us freaky people! Couples are looking to enhance and better their marriages with this fetish, in their own way.

Fetish Month Blog 6 - Creampies

A few months ago, I approached the topic of cream pies, how it differed from the term clean-up.  I actually started to understand how more people tend to look at the fetish from that blog entry.  Many of you either dabble in the fetish, or you would like to and just haven’t yet. 

The thoughts of actually tasting one can either repulse or arouse a cuck – or even both feelings.  For a guy that’s never experienced it, he’s much more leery of actually performing clean up.  It’s a total head game for him.  While he may crave being submissive to his sexy Cuckoldress, just knowing what he’s actually doing – cleaning up another man’s cum from his woman – can sound outright disgusting.  That’s why for those that say they’re somewhat interested, I encourage them to think about what makes it appealing to them, for them not to focus on the parts that make them squeamish.  You’re able to experience the desired end result for cuckolding relationships – oh, how many cucks envy you!  Is clean up humiliating?  Perhaps… but that’s a huge part of cuckolding.  We’ve already discussed humiliation, though. ;)

Something that has surprised me was the number of guys that wanted to know MY feelings during the act of creampie or clean up.  Up until I was asked, I didn’t really give a second thought to what I was thinking – ya know?  I mean, I was in that moment, living it… but what did they expect me to say?  To think?  To feel?  I really sat down and put some deep thought into it.  And as usual, my exact thoughts and feelings may not match any other Cuckoldress.  First of all, I love how it feels to be with someone I trust enough to have them go bareback, then it gets even more exciting if they cum in me.  I feel like a real woman, I’ve been given exactly what I deserved – a man inside of me, leaving quite the perfect present!  And when it comes to clean up, I’ve grown to love the feeling of power and control.  The oral sex is always nice, but that’s beside the point. (ha!)  I like to be the one in charge of “after sex” activities.  I either want to taunt him and tease him, or give him a “reward” for making sure that I’m well taken care of and happy.  And isn’t any time spent with his favorite Cuckoldress a reward?  Maybe I’m forcing cleanup after being with my guy, or maybe I’m lying back telling him about one of my encounters and he’s masturbating.  Either way, I’m the one in control of it, controlling his pleasure or his denial.  Having the desire to be dominant isn’t something I imagined I would love, but by golly it’s something I am glad I am getting in to! 

Since we all have our different viewpoints on every situation, what we may deem normal, others may believe is unusual or just plain wrong (and vice versa).  It’s all about perception.  Think about it, when it comes down to it someone could make the act of sex sound incredibly disgusting!! If you have absolutely no desire to partake in creampies or clean up, don’t think that you’re selling your experience short.  It’s not for everyone, no matter how hard others try to push this idea.  Do what’s best for YOUR relationship. =)

That being said, what are your feelings on creampies?  What about clean up?  Do you have the desire?

Fetish Month Blog 5 - Fluffing.

When I hear the term fluff, I don’t automatically think sex.  Well, that thought previously wasn’t my first.  But here lately… LOL.  You think of fluffing a pillow or marshmallow fluff (YUMMY!), or something completely non-sexual.  What exactly IS fluffing?

In the cuckolding world, the fluffer is usually the cuck.  He will either orally or manually stimulate the bull that’s servicing his wife or girlfriend.  He may also help orally and manually arouse his Cuckoldress, but this term is mostly related to acts on the males. 

It’s safe to say that not every cuckolding couple is into the fluffing fetish.  Some bulls may not like the idea of some wimpy guy – or any guy, giving them oral sex.  Or, perhaps the Cuckoldress has no desire to see her cuck orally pleasing her lover, no matter how humiliating it would be to him.  A cuck’s mission is to give their lady anything she desires.  We all have our limits, so maybe your cuck’s line is drawn at oral sex with other men.  What I’m trying to say is no matter how common it may seem, fluffing happens less often than you’d think.  Unless you work in a pornography studio that caters to cuckolding clips. ;)

For those that enjoy this fetish, it can add a much deeper level to your relationship.  Whether it is to bring on more humiliation, or to show your dominance over your wimpy cuck-boy, or even to let him satisfy a few of his bicurious tendencies, those that have an interest in fluffing definitely try to add and expand on it as much as possible.  For me, I love having control and power.  When I turn up the Cuckoldress-ness (like my word there?  I do.)  I want my cuck to basically worship and adore me, doing every last thing I ask and acknowledging my role as his Woman, and him as my little cuck.  I wouldn’t want him to hesitate if it came down to fluffing a bull to get him ready for me. 

This fetish is fairly simple and straightforward.  You have your basic definition.  You may be into it, you may not be.  So, the question is – are you into it?  :)

Fetish Month Blog 4 - Feminization.

Feminization, sometimes also referred to as sissification, is typically used in instances of female dominance.  It can also be a person’s choice to change from male to female either physically or behaviorally, not something they’re forced in to.  Feminization can be something temporary and fetishistic, like wearing lingerie or taking on feminine mannerisms, or can go as far as actual transgender surgeries and emasculation.  As I mentioned in the Cuckolding 101 episode for June 8^th, many cuckolds may never live out their fantasies of feminization and some cuckolds may think the whole idea of feminization is ludicrous. 

The most simple and sometimes unknowing level of feminization starts with the lady taking more control of decisions regarding the money and household.  The cuck usually ends up with tasks like household chores, cooking, keeping the children so his woman can go out, etc.  That in itself is a sort of submissiveness, she’s controlling her submissive partner by having him do the mundane, typical “female” tasks so she can take on the more “masculine” role of doing whatever the heck she pleases.  This is one of the least invasive and uncomfortable ways for men to become feminized, but at the same time it provides both parties with a sense of duty and purpose that may not be agreeable to how they were raised.

As she becomes more assertive and in turn, her cuck becoming more submissive, they might decide to take feminization a step further, with full on cross dressing or simply wearing ladies underwear.  Wearing panties does not make a man gay, no matter how many men have the fear that they’d be seen as such.  A little bit of searching around online (on non-fetishized websites) told me that even the straight male that has no interest in feminization, cuckolding, etc, likes to wear panties because they are a different fabric, they feel much nicer than regular men’s underwear.  Some even go so far as to say it makes them feel sexy.  If it feels good, do it!  Right? 

Women that enjoy forcing their husbands into feminization love the power and control they gain over him.  What woman doesn’t love to feel strong and powerful?  Not to mention, there are a lot of men that want this, but are ashamed to admit that it’s their desire.  They wish to wear frilly or lacy things, they want to paint their toe nails or try on high heels… but they don’t have the guts to share that fantasy.  Some of these men that are “forced” into feminization try to put up a fight or act like they have no desire, just so as to not let on that this is what they really want.  Perhaps the relinquishing of power is something they enjoy, and once they truly become submissive and do as their partner wishes, they have fully given themselves to her.

In our relationship, we don’t go overboard with feminization at this time.  Right now we have the least invasive kind of feminization.  He takes care of most of the household duties, while I focus on controlling things.     

Feminization in relation to cuckolding seems to be growing quite rapidly in our lifestyle.  I look forward to your thoughts and comments on this one!

Fetish Month Blog 3 - Humiliation.

Shame. Disgrace. Embarrassment.  Who would have thought that those feelings can cause emotional or sexual arousal? 

I believe that the goal with erotic humiliation isn’t scarring someone for life.  It’s meant to be an exchange of power, with the more dominant partner causing a loss of inhibition with her partner, the submissive (or cuck) is willingly giving up control of themselves; it’s quite the mind game and really intimate.   It brings in a bit of the “unknown” and vulnerability, making things playful and fun, and causing a rush of endorphins that creates an amazing arousal to the situation. 

Most people involved with a humiliation fetish have high stress and high maintenance jobs.  (Same could be said about cucks.)  Humiliation is meant to make you question yourself, to really evaluate who you are and what makes you tick sexually, and to explore the avenues that may frighten you. Cucks/submissives crave the ability to lose control, to give up a part of themselves and not have to make any major decisions, not have to even think.  They are told what to do, they are told (even in a playful situation) what their Mistress thinks of them, what she wants, etc. 

I read a really good article written about humiliation, and I encourage you all to read it as well if you are interested in the fetish.  Something the author says really made me think.  She created her own definition of humiliation, as it relates to a fetish:  To objectify, encouraging the embrace of parts of themselves not normally celebrated.  Think about it… you’re telling your man that he has a small penis.  Shameful?  Sure, if he feels that way about it.  But you’re also encouraging him to embrace his small endowment.  (Haha, not in the literal sense, but I guess that works too.)  I think sometimes that can work in the reverse, too.  Take me, for example.  Sometimes I really enjoy being called a slut.  I’m embracing that part of myself that many people frown upon.  It may be a derogatory term to many, but I find it hot… it makes me feel powerful, in a sense. 

There are two main types of humiliation, physical and emotional.  Physical humiliation can come in the form of cross-dressing (this is even more humiliating if the cuck or submissive is dressed as the opposite gender in public), spanking, whipping, or other types of restraints such as chastity belts, forced anal penetration, role playing, and more.  Emotional humiliation is an extremely mental and intimate act.  Verbal belittlement and insults, being forced to ask permission to do simple tasks, mockery - it can also be visual. Watching another man having sex with your wife is quite humiliating, on multiple levels!    

So many men have written to me, asking advice on how to help their wives or girlfriends understand what this fetish means for them.  How can it be exciting to hear how you don’t satisfy your woman, or that you prefer a more endowed man than your own cuck?  It’s really difficult for women to grasp, and honestly it took me a while to even start to understand it.  You tell a woman that she’s bad at sex, or that her breasts are too small, or she is only good for cleaning house – and most likely she’ll be out the door so fast your head will spin.  For us, humiliation isn’t fun.  It hurts.  How do you expect us to willingly humiliate our guy?  Won’t it hurt him too?  …the answer is, yes it will hurt, but it has the opportunity to “hurt so good”.  If your cuck is into the humiliation fetish, hearing those things will excite him beyond anything you can ever imagine.  First, both parties need to discuss where the limits lie.  I have personally spoken with a few men that have their “list”… things they absolutely WON’T do or tolerate.  For one in particular, you do not call him stupid or dumb, or anything like.  That is the end-all.  It’s fine to make him wear panties, clean-up duty, housework, whatever – just never call him stupid.  When limits like that are so clearly painted, you realize you have so many avenues to explore!  Now that the lines are drawn, you can start taking baby steps.  If you start off with verbal, then choose the phrases you discussed.  As you get more comfortable with it, branch out on your own and come up with new words or phrases to get him going.  Eventually you may move on to physical humiliations of your choosing.  Just remember to keep having open discussions on this outside of ‘play time’ so you can make sure you’re not doing any damage.  Humiliation, while being an intimate and intense fetish, can also scar pretty badly if there’s no regard for those limits.

Now, let’s not confuse those damaging feelings with angst.  After a cuck has reached orgasm, he will usually lose all his willingness to participate in cuckoldry.  He needs love, reassurances, even some cuddling!  It’s only a matter of time (sometimes a few minutes, or up to a few days) before he comes back around and is in cuck-mode, ready for some more of the pleasure that comes with the fun of cuckoldry and cuckold angst.   

As a cuck (or Cuckoldress), do you enjoy the humiliation fetish?  If not, is it something you wish you participated in?

Fetish Month blog 2 - Domination.

Domination has its place within a cuckolding relationship.  As a Cuckoldress, I am expected to have a dominating side, even if it’s something that didn’t happen with me naturally.  Not saying it hasn’t evolved as I have come out of my shell, but it wasn’t very prominent in the beginning.  But I think the misconception is, people believe a Cuckoldress to be dominant all the time, with everyone.  I don’t feel comfortable exerting a dominating attitude with everyone I meet.  I generally reserve that type of attitude for my husband. 

Many of the people into being dominated are, in fact, dominant in their everyday life.  They are professionals with high stress jobs in which they have to be in control.  What better way to let loose and be carefree than to lose all control of what’s happening?  If you submit yourself to your Mistress, she calls the shots.  She can order you around and force you to do things not because you have no direction in life, but because you don’t want to be in control at that point in time.  It’s your way to release.    A cuck takes it one step further.  Instead of just losing control of the situation they lose control of their ability to have sex with their woman.  Their lady doesn’t have to be faithful; it’s her choice to take on additional lovers. 

Most cucks may also be looking for a twinge of female domination in their relationship, they feel the need to have a powerful, controlling woman telling them what to do.  They don’t want to be in control.  It does play out in a bit of a Dominant / submissive way, with the Cuckoldress of course having the control.  Their Goddess should direct them, let the cuck know her wishes and desires, and he is to make it happen without question. It’s what she wants, so he’d better do it himself or find someone that can get the job done to her specifications!  By making sure all her wishes have come true or she never has to lift a finger in the house, she is likely to be pleased with her cuck and she can continue to be in Cuckoldress mode, either ordering him around or finding lovers to see.

Another way that cuckolding relates to domination is in the terminology.  Many times I capitalize the beginning C in Cuckoldress, but I don’t normally capitalize cuck.  Same with Goddess or Mistress, somehow by capitalizing that one letter when referring to the woman, you’re showing that she is the one in charge, she has more power.  The terms also seem to portray a worshipping or admiration for the lady.  I wouldn’t normally want to be referred to as Goddess!  But in my Cuckoldress role, it is quite flattering. 

There are other avenues of domination and ways to incorporate other fetishes into your cuckolding relationship.  Many cucks are into chastity, foot worship, or financial domination, amongst other things.  It goes back to not having any control of what’s happening, they are forced into chastity (or they go willingly because their woman requests it), or they’re being told to hand over their paycheck.  It’s a thrill for them and quite arousing. 

I am the type of person that has embraced her dominance.  Like I said, I don’t throw that attitude out with everyone, but those that have known me for a long time can see a difference in relation to how I used to be.  I am much more confident and I speak my mind now, I don’t put up with ignorant “crap”.  If I’m unhappy I will most certainly say so, even if it takes me a bit to come up with the exact words I want to say.  I tell people what I want and I expect it to happen.  (I’m not unreasonable or outlandish – usually – with my requests.)  But as far as my sexuality goes, I call the shots.  If I don’t feel like seeing anyone because I’m too tired from working, you can bet I’m going to lie around in my pajamas all evening.  If I’m so horny I can’t stand it, I’ll be calling my short list guys to see if they can meet up, and if that doesn’t pan out I’ll grab my favorite toy and take care of business.  I am in charge when it comes to sex.  Any guy that has tried to get with me can tell you, he’s on MY timetable; he has to play by MY rules.  I don’t like not having control of those situations, I’m always in charge.  My dominance doesn’t only cover my relationship with my husband, but I’m willing to bet most men will admit their wives control the household and family.  In our family I don’t outwardly “overrule” anything and everything my husband says, we usually have similar views or thoughts on things and if we differ or disagree, we talk about it.  I won’t always play the “do as I say” card.  I am willing to listen.  ;) 

With all that being said, keep in mind that not ALL cucks wish to be dominated.  They are perfectly content with their Cuckoldress taking charge of her sexuality and sex life, but they don’t feel the need to lose control of themselves.  Many Cuckoldresses still take care of the house, and even have regular daytime jobs.  Nothing changes except she is sexually active with multiple partners.  Domination isn’t for everyone, but sometimes playing with the fetish can help enhance your relationship and help you to open your mind to new experiences.

Fetish Month blog 1 - Interracial

I read many different message boards online, trying to find things to talk about.  I also believe that there are more people living an online fantasy world than living these scenarios in real life and sharing them on the web.  Anyway, in this online reading, you find that there are some people that don’t really understand that cuckolding isn’t ONLY a white cuck, white Cuckoldress, and a black bull.  There are white bulls, Latina Cuckoldresses, I’ve even received email from a black cuck.  We come in all shapes, sizes, and colors!  Those folks are more focused on interracial, than they are necessarily cuckolding. It’s not that these people are wrong, it’s just that they’re focusing on different parts. Interracial cuckolding is exactly what they WANT this fetish to be, they’re wearing blinders and focus only on seeing a white cuck, white Cuckoldress, and black bull. A lot of men see black men as superior, dominant beings that make women weak in the knees and turn us into submissives.  I guess that’s somewhat true, as black men generally have a better attitude towards sex, they are more relaxed and easygoing and certainly more confident, and it’s easier to gravitate towards people like that.  But so many guys are under the impression that black is best and no woman would want anything but a huge black cock.  

You ask other women (that are in open or cuckolding type relationships) if ‘once you go black, you never go back’ rings true and you get different answers.  I know of one woman that hasn’t had a black lover since her teenage years, but is still open to the idea.  Yet another woman doesn’t ever want to have sex with a black man, and another woman I know recently had her first experience with a black man and now that’s all she can think about.  I guess that means the real answer to that question is: for some people yes, and for others, no.

Personally, I have no reservations about interracial sex. I also don’t believe I should limit myself when it comes to men. If you have absolutely none of the qualities that I deem attractive, you don’t have a chance.  Race or skin color aren’t the factors I take into consideration when choosing the men I see.  Attitude, confidence, openness in communication, and especially intelligence are very attractive in my eyes.  My husband used to talk about all of the computers in the building, or rambled on about eponymous adages (I believe his favorite being Hanlon’s razor) and I would be mesmerized at his knowledge.  I found it incredibly hot!  Anyway, it’s not all about smarts with me.  Show me a guy with some nice arms and a good smile, and I melt like a popsicle on a hot day.  What I’m trying to say is, my preferences have nothing to do with the color of your skin.

I had never had an interracial experience of any kind until just over a year ago.  The guy I was with knew exactly how to play the bull role, and he made things really easy for me.  Even talking to my cuck was easier during the experience.  Sex with him was AMAZING, and it really hit me that I was limiting myself when it came to men and the things I could experience.  Kind of an awakening, I guess you could say… I didn’t know sex could be so good!

There is also a big fantasy attached to interracial sex for a lot of cuckolding couples, and that’s impregnation.  Fantasy or reality, it gets a lot of couples excited.  Something is so erotic about hearing your bull tell you how he’s going to get you pregnant, and you will carry his baby.  (Granted, I’m being safe when it comes to sex and all of this is fantasy in my world, but it does happen in reality for some couples.  I have personally spoken with a couple that is living out this fantasy.  I have encouraged them to blog about the entire experience, and if they do so I will definitely post about it here.)  For so many cucks, just the thought of having your wife or girlfriend become pregnant after being with her black lover is enough to send them over the edge – the good one, not the bad one.  (haha)  They may not have shared that fantasy with their lady, but it’s still a hot topic for many guys. 

Let me know what your thoughts are on interracial cuckolding. :)  Mondays blog: Domination.

A quick look at whats coming up this month from Jinxypie

Mind boggling stuff-a-luff.

If you sit for a second and really think about what cuckolding is, you come up with all kinds of questions.  I don’t mean the literal definition; I mean just what cuckolding IS.  The woman in the relationship is free to act single, be sexy, have fun, flirt with people, have sex, go out anytime she wants… all the while having someone at home that she loves and that loves her back, takes care of her financially, she has a secure relationship with him.  That sounds like it’s every woman’s dream life!  Doing as she pleases with whomever she pleases while having security and comfort with her partner. It doesn’t sound like every man’s dream by any means.  What man is secure enough in their relationship to give his woman the keys to her “freedom”?  Letting her do whatever she wishes as long as she comes home to him. 

It is really mind-boggling to think that there are so many men that want this type of lifestyle, for whatever reason, yet so few women that want to cuckold their men.  How can that be?  Like I said, it doesn’t sound like a man’s dream but it certainly sounds like every woman would want to live a life of fun, sex, and security!  Why are more men interested in cuckolding than women? I have a few thoughts on it.

Women seem to be more sexually confined by society. We’ve yet to have a woman president in the United States, but not for lack of trying.  Women didn’t even get the right to vote in the United States until 1920! (Again, not for lack of trying.)  In Victorian times, women weren’t allowed sexual satisfaction and were even blamed for the moral decline of society if they happened to enjoy themselves. They weren’t allowed to have sex unless it was for the purpose of procreation.  Imagine being shamed because you liked sex! 

Men aren’t as hindered by sexuality in itself.  There are some really twisted double standards in our society.  If a single woman is with a couple guys in the span of a weekend, she’s deemed a slut.  A single man that gets two different ladies in a weekend?  Way to go, man! *fist bump*  …know what I mean?  People expect men to be horn-dogs, to go out trying to find as many different women to sleep with as they can get their hands on.  But people expect women to be proper, beautiful, reserved, and not sexual or even promiscuous.  

If a guy has what my husband likes to call a “good threesome” (2 women, 1 man) then he’s the king.  He can brag to every guy he knows about his experience.  But do you think either of those women will go bragging to her friends?  It’s highly unlikely.  She doesn’t want the dirty looks or the ridicule that would come from those that don’t understand.  Women have been told most of their life to repress their sexual feelings.  We’re not supposed to talk about sex, which leaves us feeling ashamed and confused because we have those feelings and experiences, but no one to talk to about them.  Women are still sexually repressed and don’t understand their sexuality.

Most women don’t even understand orgasms, or have never really had one.  Obviously, men don’t have this problem. They know what it is and how to achieve it. According to this study, 10-15% of women have NEVER had an orgasm.  A good 30% have no idea where their clitoris is!  In fact, more men in this study knew where the clitoris was than women. (Come on, ladies!)  Check out this study and the really thoughtful comments.  It may even prompt you to do some self-exploration, ladies…  We can’t be scared of our bodies and learning what feels good.  Once we learn what WE like, we can help our men to understand what we like.  Again, as my husband says from time to time “You don’t know what night is because you’ve never seen day.  You don’t know what bad is because you’ve never seen good.”  If you don’t know what an orgasm is or how to achieve one, how do you know what you’re missing? ;)

I’m so glad that the world is changing, but it takes people a long time to be more accepting – or even ‘numb’ to things. Take all the celebrities and their sex scandals.  Lots of women have a sex tape that has or eventually make its rounds. The first few were shocking!  But the more it happens, the more we expect it.  How many men have been with numerous women only to be forced to admit it years later? Sure, when it happens the first few times we as a society are SHOCKED.  Truth is, it’s so common nowadays, we barely pay attention to it.  “Oh, so-and-so slept with other women?  Wonder how many come out to say they’ve been with him too.”  And that’s the end of the discussion.  It’s not as bothersome to us, we’ve been exposed to the scenarios and since it’s not the first one to ever happen, it doesn’t shock us.  The more it happens, the more we’re expecting it to happen.

Women are incredibly sexy creatures but have been told by our families, friends, and society that we shouldn’t be sexual; there is so much confusion and no one to help them sort through it.  The more women understand their sexuality and that it is perfectly FINE to be a sexual being, I think we’ll start to see more women opening their minds to relationships such as cuckolding or exploring fetishes as well as finding ways to spice things up a bit. Ladies, take long, good look at yourself.  Do you enjoy sex? Would you enjoy MORE sex? What about having BETTER sex?  In this day and age, we can’t be overly worried about what society or the public is going to think.  In many cases, they’ll never know anything about our sex life!  There are ways to have your cake and eat it too.  You just have to look for them.  ;)

Quick and painless...

It’s really easy to let things slip.  Emails, returning phone calls, the laundry… all have a tendency to pile up if we don’t give it the attention it needs. If we’re not careful, we also start to neglect the really important stuff.  Our health, our relationship… all can be really easy to push aside while we focus on other things.

 It is always important to take the time to distress and relax, that’s why vacations are so important!  (They keep us sane!) But it is also important to catch up and take care of those things that we let slip. That’s what I’m trying to do, catch up on things. 

 Some of you aren’t really aware, I’ve been thrown for a loop in the past month.  (I’m not going into detail, so don’t ask.)  Things still aren’t as straight as they need to be, but progress is being made.  Slow and steady wins the race, right?

 Forgive me for letting life get in the way.  Emails are almost cleared, updates are getting back on track.  Things are returning to their normal pattern.

Hmm. This one ended up longer than I had planned!

If I say one thing but do another, that makes me a hypocrite.  Right?  So why would anyone say they believe in living a certain way, but live a completely opposite lifestyle? If you’re going to go around sharing your views and beliefs, then you had better commit to them. Let’s say you tell everyone that you’re a believer in spiritual healing. You would never even consider letting yourself or even one of your children have surgery if the need came about.  For those people that refuse medical treatment (in the form of say, chemotherapy or radiation therapy, or even a non-life threatening surgery) and stay strong to their beliefs of spiritual healing, I praise you for sticking true to your beliefs, regardless of what everyone else thinks.  But for those that claim they would go with spiritual healing regardless of the situation, and then decide that when some of their worst fears are staring them in the face, they really need medical intervention.  While it may have been the smarter choice for their situation, if they go back to claiming they only want spiritual healing from then on, they have then stated one thing while living out different scenarios.  Hypocrites. 

Growing up, most of us are taught to believe that the man is the head of the household.  What the man says, goes! Even if there are objections they shouldn’t be brought to light, it doesn’t matter because the man of the house made the decision and he shouldn’t be questioned… right? What happens to the women when we ask our men to do something?  We expect it to be done.  No reason to continue sitting on the couch watching TV, we asked our guy to take out the trash.  How long until he hops up to his chore? When he doesn’t, we certainly give him an earful, letting him know exactly what we’re thinking.  First of all, why isn’t the man making that decision?  A woman’s place is to do what her man tells her, not order him around!  (Yes, I realize that sounds incredibly sexist.)  I’m willing to bet that in most homes, the lady is in charge, regardless of what we like everyone else to believe. So are we being hypocrites when we go around acting like the man is in charge, knowing good and well that behind closed doors we believe something different?

What about turning the other cheek?  Say that last week you were explaining to your sister how she should forgive her best friend for talking about her behind her back.  People like to gossip, and it’s not hard to admit, her friend was in the wrong, but why throw away 20 years of friendship over one gossipy comment?  Then you go in to your place of work to find that one of your coworkers has been gossiping about you.  This is a person you felt close to, you have lunch together nearly every day, send funny emails, listen to her rant about her crazy ex-husband or her dog.  How could they betray you like that?  You’ll never be able to forgive them!  Again I say, what about turning the other cheek?  If you are spouting those beliefs on someone you truly care about that means you should have no problems following them yourself, right? Or are you going to be a hypocrite and harbor the anger?

I’m not here to tell you how to live your life.  I don’t care who does what, we all make our choices and have to deal with the consequences of those choices.  I just don’t believe that you should walk around, passing judgement and forcing your beliefs and opinions on everyone when you can’t even live up to what you believe.

I fully believe in and cherish my cuckolding lifestyle.  I love the dynamic between my husband and I, we really understand each other in ways that I never had with any other relationship.  I’m sure it makes some people sick to see us together because we are usually so happy and in love, you know… one of those couples.  Yes, I know that not everyone can live this lifestyle successfully, I know that it’s not right for every couple.  But I truly believe there’s no way to have this level of happiness unless you can be totally and completely honest with each other.  None of the ‘PC’ talk as to not offend or upset them, you just lay it out on the line.  It’s not always easy, but it’s necessary. 

You can’t hold back because you’re scared you’re going to upset the other person.  If they get mad about it or hurt, at least your feelings are known.  “Hey, honey?  I just wanted to let you know that I’m not particularly fond of your moustache.”  Or what about “You could stand to lose about ten pounds.”  You probably would never dream of saying such things to your loved one’s face, but what if you actually felt that way?  It may shock them to hear it… they may even be upset (if you don’t currently have a habit of saying what’s on your mind).  Now whether they decide they want to shave off the moustache or the pounds is up to them, but at least they know your feelings on the situation.

Let’s take it one step further.  “Sweetie, I can tell when we’re having sex that you’re just not into it.  Am I not giving you what you need sexually?”  Or something along the lines of “You’re great in the sack, but it’s still not enough.  Can we have sex more?  I have these urges and needs, honey…”  Wow, that changes things a bit huh… we don’t feel comfortable talking about sex, sometimes even in the bedroom or with our partner. Sex has always been a dirty or taboo topic, you just deal with what you can get from your partner. If we’re the ones having sex (even if it isn’t as often as we’d like), why can’t we make ourselves comfortable talking about it?  It would make us feel better to finally say what’s on our mind, what’s been bothering us, and could very well make a needed or desired change with your sex life.  How is that honesty a negative thing?

You may not understand why or how you could be this way, but you have to understand that no relationship is the same. Two people together may have some similarities to another couple, but no couple is EXACTLY the same. You have to live your life the way YOU want to, what’s comfortable and best for you. 

I can offer my point of view and suggestions to try to help those that are interested, but in the end don’t let anyone tell you that you have to live a certain way.  Not a group of friends, your religion, or your family.  People feel like they are forced into a way of living or thinking because of how society will look at them… would you rather be miserable and have everyone look at you like one of the other sheep, or would you rather be happy and not care how you are seen? Do what makes you happy and feels right (without causing pain and suffering to others).  General good words to live by, don’t you think? :)

Are you brave enough to try it?

Imagine finding someone that loves you for everything you are, as the saying goes ‘warts and all’.  What if part of who you are is a woman with a very high sex drive?  Sure, men think about sex just as much as a woman does.  But are they up to the task of satisfying you? Can they keep your sexual appetite in check?

Believe it or not, there are so many men that are looking for a woman to love them and cuckold them at the same time.  I get many emails from such men, hoping that I have a friend interested in a similar lifestyle that I lead.  Much to their dismay, I don’t have many single friends… but I have started pointing them in the direction of a specific website, hotwifedating.com.  It’s a website that basically caters to the hotwifing/cuckolding lifestyle, a site where hotwives, bulls, or cucks can go find a “match” for their current situation. 

In talking with the webmaster of hotwifedating.com, he agrees that there are not enough women that are aware of this lifestyle.  It’s one that so many men want their wives to have, to enjoy to the fullest, yet many women are oblivious to the fact that it even exists.  There are many hotwives and cuckoldresses that are able to find as many bulls as they’d like, but what about those women that have a high sex drive and may be single? Those women that certainly would enjoy having their sexual freedom, but also having a man to care about, to love, and that loves them back, that’s completely willing to let her go and have sex with as many men as she pleases.  Where do we find those ladies?

That’s really hard to answer.  A lot of women grow up not really talking about their sexuality, or being told that due to their religious upbringing, sex is something you’ll figure out when the time is right.  But you’re ONLY supposed to have sex with that ONE person for the rest of your life, like it or not.  It’s really hard to break the ideas that you’ve been force-fed most of your life.  Even if a woman doesn’t really feel that way inside, she has to act like it for the sake of society. We’re not supposed to ‘rock the boat’ or be the one seen as different and scandalous!  What if your flirty, trampy behavior gets back to your boyfriend or husband?! 

What I would like for women to realize is, you don’t have to sneak around and hide what you’re doing.  When you’re trying to be secretive and hiding things, you’re more on edge and always paranoid.  How can you be happy if you’re constantly worrying?  You don’t need to feel like you have to hide it!  There are so many men out there that want nothing more than to have someone to love and treat like a princess, that will go out and be with as many men as she desires.  You CAN have your cake and eat it too!  And then have some brownies and pie and ice cream, and as many other deserts as you’d like. ;) 

Ladies, don’t feel like you need to be restricted or hide who you truly are. Once you realize you can be honest and open about everything in your heart and mind, you’ll start to see the changes in yourself – and you’re bound to feel better than ever.  Don’t you want a cuck of your own?

How I do it.

Some people just don’t understand the ‘world inside my head’.  It’s ok, I fully understand and respect that people don’t think the same ways.  And, as was mentioned in my last post, I honestly would just like all people to have an open-minded approach to new things, not be so quick to judge. 

I had a very wonderful phone conversation with Dr. David Ley, author of Insatiable Wives, the women who stray and the men who love them. One of his questions wanted me to basically give him an explanation of how our everyday life worked.  My response was basically this, we’re a very normal couple and lead a very normal life.  We still wake up, go to work, do housework, make meals, watch a little tv, and go to bed.  The only thing that differs in our lives is, sometimes I go and meet a guy during the day (more on how I meet them later) or I will go out and meet a guy later in the evening. When I’ve had my fun, I come home and talk to my husband about it when we have our personal “sex” time.  No secrets, nothing kept from each other. It’s a normal, everyday life, with a bit of cuckolding thrown in at the appropriate times. 

I’ve said many times over, I’m not the type of person that wants a “relationship” with those I’m having sex with.  Relationships are (in my opinion) sticky, and completely INVOLVED.  I throw my all into a relationship, every bit of emotional attachment.  I don’t need attachments with fifteen different guys, because that would lessen the experience, not only for me but for them as well.  I have all the emotional attachment I could ever need with my husband.  He “gets” me, inside and out.  There’s no worry that he wouldn’t be able to fulfill my emotional needs and I would have to look for some kind of fulfillment elsewhere.  That being said, I know of MANY women that I’ve personally talked to that prefer to go the boyfriend route with their cuckolding experience.  They want that attachment, they want that connection.  They have emotional needs that aren’t always met in one place, so they look for fulfillment elsewhere.  Now for me, I can separate sex and attachment.  Sex is purely physical, it’s a physical act between two (or more) people. Attachment is on a different level.  I’ve never really had a hard time separating the two, but again there are those out there that only want to have sex with someone they have a connection with.  I’m not one of those ladies. 

My process for meeting a guy isn’t an easy one.  There are many “hoops” to jump through!  Like I said earlier, sometimes I will meet a guy during the day (for sex), or sometimes its late in the evening.  I always take my time before meeting someone new.  I talk to them over email and sometimes on the phone, until I feel comfortable with them, and even sometimes we will have face-to-face meetings (in non-sexual atmospheres) just to see what the other is about. To me, that’s not trying to find the proverbial “spark” for a connection, that’s just common sense to see if any red flags are raised from meeting.  You can’t always get a good feel for someone over email or the phone.  Plus, they may look absolutely NOTHING like what they told you (or the pictures they’ve sent).  ;)

After I’m out with these guys, I always look forward to coming home.  Some couples call this a “reclaiming period”; going back to the one you love. And honestly, a lot of the time when I’m coming through the door my husband is already asleep.  Don’t take that to mean that he’s not excited or hadn’t been eagerly awaiting my return.  My going out is so normal for us, I keep him updated with texts here and there, and he usually jerks off and is calm, and can go to sleep.  He knows that if I need anything I will call or text, and tell him immediately.  But as a man that works two jobs (his regular day-job, then coming home to help me out with our business), he needs his rest.  There are some nights that he is able to wait up on me, and those nights are always a little more intense.  We talk about what I did that evening, things in our pasts, fantasies we’ve had or thoughts that have ran through our minds… yes, sometimes we do have intercourse, but other times it’s me talking to him while one of us jerks him off.  Never underestimate the power of mental stimulation. That’s our sex life in a nutshell.

After sex, be it with my husband or any other guy, things go back to our normal, everyday life.  Our dynamic doesn’t change because I got laid that night… the laundry is still going to be there to wash, the bills still need to get paid, and hubby is still going to ask for 5 more minutes to sleep in before I kick his butt out of bed and make him get ready for work.  This transition (between Cuckoldress and everyday Jinxy) isn’t even noticed anymore, I’m not worried that my husband is harboring these weird feelings about our situation, nor is he (usually) worried that he’s freaked me out with something we talked about during sex.  We know that the lines of communication are never closed.

This may seem overwhelming; you may be scratching your head wondering how it could all seem so easy! Well, I’m a very lucky woman to be married to such a loving and understanding man.  He’s been patient with me as I figured out exactly who I am, and what I want in life.  We’ve helped each other to grow, and to understand how the other views things.  I get to have the incredible sex life that I crave, seeing as many different men as I wish, all the while having a supportive husband who is everything I could ever need in every way except the bedroom.

'Strange is just a different point of view...'

Co-written by Jinxypie and her Hub.

In all reality, most people look at things differently. In your circle of friends you have things in common and all get along great. What most people don’t see is how everyone perceives things just a little differently. Let’s say while discussing some piece of news or something considered gossip, you all take a different view on the subject. While most of the time you give the topic at hand no more than a few seconds of conscious thought, there are instances when you realize that you are uncomfortable, amused, interested or even shocked by the topic. In these situations no one person is right or wrong, everyone is raised differently in many different surroundings or came to their own conclusions about these subjects, many times without ever being exposed to them personally.

Please remember I am using these following examples as purely that - “examples”. I don’t condone, condemn, or for the most part even form an opinion about the specific subjects mentioned. I simply want you to look at a few “trendy” instances of how cultures and societies are slightly and sometimes dramatically different with an open mind and I’ll get to the point sooner or later.

In Iran, any suntanned woman will be imprisoned. As an American woman, and an extremely fair-skinned one at that, I couldn’t imagine being told by my government that I cannot use a tanning bed anymore, or even tan outside my own home. The fine for such debauchery is imprisonment. Yet most of you women get up every morning and head out of the house without ever thinking about covering up every inch of your exposed skin. You are probably thinking ‘Wow that is unbelievable! How could a woman be mistreated like that? I could never live that way. I have my beliefs and that is incomprehensible.’ If that’s what you thought then you’re not getting the idea here. What you need to do in this situation is think of how these women who live this way every day and have no problems with it would think of YOU. How would they be able to wrap their heads around the idea of each of you whoreish women who show their faces, arms, and maybe even ankles in public? Not to mention those of us who bare more than that. Do you see what I’m getting at? Most of you are being judged right now for things you consider completely normal. Granted, these people don’t know your names or who you are but we as a society are being judged nonetheless by others for doing everyday mundane tasks like wearing a pair of shorts. It’s all about perception!

How about this? The legal drinking age in Canada is (depending on the territory and province) 18 or 19 years. There’s no minimum drinking age in Ireland as long as you’re with a parent and not in a public place. In the United Kingdom, you may drink alcohol at age 5 in private, at age 16 in a public place as long as it’s with a meal and you’re accompanied by an adult, or otherwise at age 18. In the United States, the ripe age of 21 years is the magic number for legally drinking and purchasing alcoholic beverages. After reading this I’m confident that the majority of you knew that the legal drinking ages in other countries varied, I’m also pretty certain that at least half of you knew that in some countries children could drink legally. So the aforementioned statement didn’t shock you. I am also sure the other half of you had never given it a second thought, and if asked would have probably assumed that the legal age to consume alcohol in different parts of the world was somewhere in the vicinity of 21. This is what I would like you to focus on. As humans we tend to assume things based on what we have been exposed to, never putting a second thought into the subtle behaviors of others that are inclined to different ways of thinking. If any of those people that were shocked to learn this information were to visit the UK and noticed a 16 year old drinking a beer, they would most likely wait to see if the police came to arrest the parent for child abuse. The idea here is don’t always assume things of others just because you haven’t seen them do it. This goes for anything, not just drinking a beer.

What about nudity on television? Ever watched British TV and saw a little more than you expected? They aren’t as worried about someone seeing a woman’s breasts or someone’s buttocks on a television show. Keep in mind this is on regular programming, not HBO or Cinemax. Imagine watching an episode of Friends in which Phoebe decides she wants to be a stripper and does! Remember the infamous Super Bowl Halftime Show in which Justin Timberlake “accidentally” exposed Janet Jackson’s breast? That caused lots of pressure on the FCC to set restrictions and use higher “moral standards”. Before you start thinking I’m advocating nudity on sitcoms ask yourself this; do you know someone from the UK, ever dated a French person, or had a neighbor from Australia? Did you think these people were sex crazed lunatics? Did you rush your children inside the house the second they walked down the street, or alert the local schools that there were predators lurking nearby? Why not? These people have been exposed to nudity on television and in books since a very young age there must be something wrong with them, right? If you didn’t know this information about these other countries are you going to report them now? I ask again why not? Because, there is nothing wrong with these people. They live the same as everybody else. These countries produce lawyers, doctors, gas station attendants, murders, momma’s boys, and thieves just like all the rest. Just because you were raised a certain way doesn’t always make it the correct way, just as much as it doesn’t make it the wrong way either. Always question a line of thinking before automatically putting it in the bad column. You don’t think badly of a person doing something that is completely normal in their own culture, yet some people think horribly of a person doing something different within their own culture.

One more, if you don’t mind. You drive on which side of the road? Some countries have you driving on the right side of the road, others on the left. It all is left up to where you are in the world. When you grow up only knowing one way to do things, it’s really foreign to you to think about doing it any other way. But what happens when you travel? It’s a bit of a shock, to have your whole way of thinking turned all around. You’re extremely conscious of what you’re doing, you pay closer attention to everything happening around you, and you feel frustrated. You get behind the wheel of a car and you suddenly have a one track mind -- “Stay on the wrong side of the road”. Where am I going with this one, you ask? Well, being around something different is, for the lack of a better word, different. You may think it’s fun or interesting, or you may just hate it. If you experience the latter you may say things like “I’m never getting used to this, I hate it!” or “I’m going to sit in my hotel and just not be around it, you can keep your backwards cars”. If, however you are willing to forego the discontent of this new thing that has just turned your world upside down, the strangest thing will happened. You will get used to it. You may never fully love driving on the opposite side of the road but you will become ok with it. You might even learn to find good things about it, for instance maybe they let you make a left on red or you learned how to shift with your left hand and can show off to all your friends back home. The theory here is; just because you were suddenly exposed to something shocking and you feel like you can never get past it, with a little time and a willingness to learn and not hide from it, after a while you will be ok and not be able to remember why you were so angry in the first place. Plus as an added bonus you may learn something along the way!

What have we learned here? That we’re all really STRANGE! No, that’s not it. That what others may consider NORMAL may in fact be WEIRD to us (and vice versa). Maybe to look at the other side of the coin before you pass judgment. Something that may seem incredibly unheard of or unreal may be the way that people have to, or choose to, live their lives. Most importantly we have learned that nothing in life is every really cut and dry and as people we have to be more understanding of the choices and beliefs of others.
And now without further delay, my point;

Hello, my name is Jinxypie; I have sex on a regular basis with men that aren’t my husband. I am truly in love with my husband but I enjoy the sexual satisfaction of multiple men in varying numbers. My husband knows and encourages what I do and loves me for it. I teach others about this way of life through blogs, videos, and email correspondence. Oh and I also have a website in which I showcase what I do in the form of pornographic videos and images, and that’s just scratching the surface…

What do you think about that?